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A GOOD BLACK MAN
Posted in FOOD FOR THOUGHT
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(Good men don't get much play or acknowledgement that they should or deserve. It is kind of like Velma from Scooby Doo. She was the brains of them all, while Freddy & Daphe [she was somewhat the bimbo of the group-there is always at least one and plenty on here] where hoeing it out and Scooby & Shaggy had the munchieS....hmmm I wonder why?)
Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets,
in the malls, and at work. Most we can't see because we don't know what
a good black man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or
rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a
Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as
you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back
rather than someone who turns your head.

A good black man doesn't agree with everything you say all the time. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he
won't have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may
clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even
admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the
same.

A good black man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He
is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful,
strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel
that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can
declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!"

A good black man isn't insecure about his woman having great
achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with
her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not
hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness
comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals.
For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man
right along with her.

A good black man doesn't necessarily give you a huge birthday or
Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to
him. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy
tale. You'll miss out on y our own fairy tale by buying into the myth
that our black men are no good. It's just not true.

A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means
what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if
he is going to call or show up - he is dependable.

A good black man has a love and a heart for his Higher Power. As his
relationship and love with that Higher Power grows so will his
relationship and love with and for you grow. So remember ladies, that a good man needs a good woman which in return keeps him grounded and focussed on true love. Admire him for what he is and has to offer instead of what he isn't and does not have to give. Unselfishness is the key to an undying relationship. Take a look around and take notice of a good BLACK MAN.............Be safe and stay humble as you are so beautiful and blessed..........Devin .D Desvigne