Personal InfoMember Since May 08, 2004 Age 39 Gender Male Last Login 23 mins ago Location Hyattsville, MD Relationship Status Single Dating Preference Female Race Black/African American Education Bachelor's Degree Primary Job Category Automotive/Motor Vehicle/Parts, Executive Management, Human Resources, Information Technology Income $50-75,000 Astrological Sign Aquarius |
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Emotional Signs That He`s Cheating Think your mate might be having an affair? Find out if he is displaying any of the warning signals. 1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues. 2. Your mate begins buying you gifts -- lots of gifts. These are "Guilt Gifts" purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you and showering you with presents makes him orher feel better. 3. Your mate`s behavior is causing a gut feeling in you that something isn`t right. If this happens, pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them means you want to blind yourself to the truth. You know your mate`s habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things change. 4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you. Doing this gives him reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions he is feeling about betraying you. 5. Your mate constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue. She says things like, "What would you do if our relationship ended?" or "If anything ever happened to us, I would always love you like a friend." In general, she seems very negative about your relationship. Your mate makes these statements because she has a lover to fall back on if your relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements often, be suspicious. 6. Your mate becomes very moody. He or she seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you but acts somber and depressed when around you. If your mate is in a long-term affair, he/she will try to keep both relationships running smoothly. Any problems the cheater has in one relationship will spillover into the other relationship as well. This is inevitable. 7. Your mate never talks to you. You live together but don`t interact. He has become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings. 8. Your mate lacks self-esteem. This doesn`t necessarily mean he will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual often looks to others for guidance. If an insecure person`s needs aren`t beingmet, he might find the desired feelings of security and positive feedback in an affair with someone else. 9. Your mate continually criticizes another person. She is trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest to her, although there actually exists a secret attraction. 10. Your mate criticizes things about you that he or she once found attractive and appealing. 11. Your mate stops saying, "I love you." The Single-Parent Trap How to raise a child alone, without guilt -- or competition with your ex After divorce, many single parents try too hard to compensate for the absence of a spouse. In the process, they neglect their own needs in order to meet their children`s needs. Many custodial single parents -- most of whom are female -- have become ensnared in the "Single Parent Trap." As the distinction between what her kids truly need and what they simply want becomes blurred, a single mother can easily fall into a pattern of overindulgence, stretching her emotional resources to the breaking point. She gives as much as she can, both emotionally and materially, to children who begin taking this giving for granted -- appreciating it less and less, and becoming increasingly demanding. Eventually, and inevitably, the single mother`s ability to go on giving collapses, and she vents her frustration at the kids. Then guilt sets in. In this ongoing soap opera, the children are victims of circumstance, and Mom must do penance through self-sacrifice. Every time she gets angry at her kids, she ends up feeling like abad parent. "If I could only control my temper," she thinks, "everything would be OK." But her temper is not the problem. Instead, she must learn to moderate her giving to her kids, and begin getting for herself. Getting Out of the Trap You must establish an identity for yourself separate and apart from the role of parent. You must allow the adult woman in you to separate herself from her role as Mom. Doing so will help you get your needs met, whether they be social, vocational, recreational, or sexual. In short, for your children`s sake as well as your own, you must give yourself permission to be selfish. Only then will you have enough "inventory" to share freely with your children. Another part of the single parent trap is entering into competition with the children`s father. The single mom sees him having all the fun with the children while she shoulders the day-to-day responsibilities. What`s more, she notices that the kids are more excited about visits with Dad than they are about returning home. Again, she overcompensates by trying to make life with Mom easy and wonderful. Free yourself by embracing "The Single Parent`s Bill of Rights": 1. The right to make time -- and plenty of it -- for your hobbies, interests, and friendships. 2. The right to put your kids to bed early, so you can have some time every evening for yourself. 3. The right to say no to your children. The quest for self-fulfillment, although it means less time spent directly with your child, never fails to produce a more positive parent/child relationship. After all, nothing contributes more to a child`s sense of security than knowing that his or her parent is a happy person. 10 Ways to Reduce Single-Parent Stress Minimize the stress and bring back the joy of parenting. One of every four American children today lives in a single-parent home. And though the circumstances may vary (some parents are divorced, others are widowed, and others are single parents by choice), the reality is that solo parenting is often stressful, demanding, and hectic. If you are a single mom or dad, there are 10 things you can do to help minimize the stress in your life -- and bring back the joy of parenting. 1. Get a handle on finances. Raising a family on one income, or relying on an ex-spouse for child support, can be one of the hardest aspects of parenting alone. That`s why it`s important to take steps to budget your money, learn about long-term investments, plan for college and retirement, and, if possible, enhance your earning power by going back to school or getting additional job training. 2. Set up a support system. All single parents need help -- whether it`s someone to watch the kids while you run out to do errands or simply someone to talk to when you feel overwhelmed. While it`s tempting to try to handle everything alone, ask friends and family members for help. You could join a single-parent support group, or, if finances allow, hire a trusted sitter to help out with the kids or someone to assist with housework. 3. Maintain a daily routine. Try to schedule meals, chores, bedtimes, and other family functions at regular hours so that your child knows exactly what to expect each day. A consistent routine will help your child feel more secure and help you feel more organized. 4. Be consistent with discipline. Children thrive when they know which behaviors are expected of them and which rules they need to follow. If you are divorced or separated, work with your spouse to create and observe consistent rules and methods of discipline (there`s nothing more stressful than having one parent undermine the other). If your child has other caregivers, talk to them about how you expect your child to be disciplined. 5. Answer questions honestly. Inevitably, questions will come up about the changes in your family, or about the absence of one parent. Answer your child`s questions in an open, honest, and age-appropriate way. Make sure thatyour child gets the help and support he needs to deal with difficult emotions. 6. Treat kids like kids. With the absence of a partner, it`s sometimes tempting to rely too heavily on children for comfort, companionship, or sympathy. But children have neither the emotional capacity nor the life experience to act as substitute adult partners. If you find yourself depending on your kids too much, or expressing your frustrations to them too often, seek out adult friends and family members to talk to. Or seek counseling if necessary. 7. Abolish the word "guilt" from your vocabulary. It`s always easy for single parents to feel guilty about the time they don`t have or the things they can`t do or provide for their children. But for your own sense of well-being, it`s better to focus on all the things you do accomplish on a daily basis and on all the things you do provide -- and don`t forget about all the love, attention, and comfort you`re responsible for! (If you ever question your day-to-day achievements, just make a list.) If you`re feeling guilty about a divorce or other disruption in your home life, think about joining a support group for other divorced parents. Focus on helping your child (and yourself) get the help you need. 8. Take time for your children. Even though the piles of laundry and dirty dishes may beckon, set aside time each day to enjoy your kids. (After all, isn`t that what parenting is all about?) Spend quiet time playing, reading, going for a walk, or simply listening to music together. And most important, focus on the love between you and on your relationshipas a family. 9. Take time for yourself. Likewise, it`s important to schedule time for yourself. Even if it`s something as simple as reading a book, taking a warm bath, or having a chat with a friend, setting aside a little personal time will give you a chance to refuel. 10. Stay positive. It`s easy to become overwhelmed by all the responsibilities and demands of single parenthood. < Image GallerySend me a Note |
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