A_Lost_Man

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"The truth is an ugly thing, so we imprison our prophets." --Charles Manson

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don`t matter and those who matter don`t mind."
--Dr. Seuss

WHAT`S A MAN TO DO?
I was inspired by a chatter friend of mine to do this.
I don't have a picture because I want someone to like me for ME, not for a picture they saw online--that may not be realistic to YOU, but that's MY reality, and that's all that matters. Yes, I am a proud "psuedo-nerd!" I love books, libraries, museums, video games (when I have the time to play them) and all things intellectual! If LL Cool J, Boris Kudjoe, or Shamar Moore are your things, then please leave my page....I'm all about substance, not image! I love Old School music, hate Southern Rap (don't ask me to like it...I simply don't!). So why is it so hard for a African-American man find a good American woman, either online, or in the real world? Is it so much to ask for that a woman...

--...not ask for a picture BEFORE you know whether or not I can string a coherent sentence together? Besides, YOU chose to put yours up (no one asked you to) and I chose NOT to...yes, that's fair!

--...not claim to want a "real man" or someone who's "not fake" when you're not willing to accept someone for who they are? Talk about hypocrisy!

--...is not here just to display a thousand pictures of herself just so she can get thousands of men telling her how "good she looks?" If you need THAT much attention, you also need help...seek it!

--...doesn`t have a username with the number "69" or some other sexual innuendo in it. Talk about sex on the brains....get your minds out the gutter!

--...not drink or smoke (that includes marijuana or other illicit drugs. What`s the deal? Why are so many people seeking escape from reality? This is the only reality there is, so deal with it...stop being so weak!).

--...not insist I "seek the Lawd" (that`s "Lord" for you ebonically-challenged. There are 6 billion people on the planet, and each one must find the particular path toward spirituality and enlightenment that makes them a better person, not YOUR path!).

--...not expect daily passion (as opposed to lustful interludes! If you don`t believe that a lifelong committment means that physical passion will not always be there, just ask your grandparents). At most I have other interests; at least, I have discipline. I dont want to screw all day/everyday...I have other things to do. Weak people are led by their desires...strong people are led by their minds.

--...stop babying their children (especially little boys). That means, stop spoiling them with things (make them earn them), and don`t be afraid to spank them for disobedience (better you do it than the police), and help them with their homework (stop raising proud dummies!). Teach them to lead, not follow!

--...who knows the difference between a "soul-mate" and a "husband" (one feels you and loves you on levels which touch your soul..the other is legally recognized as your husband. You don`t need a piece of paper or legal recognition for a "soul-mate"). Any two buffoons can get married. Besides, if marriage is such a good thing, why do 80% of BP profiles read as "divorced" in the left margin? LOL

--...says what she means, means what she says, and doesnt change her mind every *^&%$` 5 minutes!!!

--...is not so "liberated" or "independent" that she can`t let the man be the man?

--...doesn`t claim to be "high maintainence" (contrary to what you think, no man is looking for that!). That includes wannbe "divas," "dimes," and "supermodels"--just be a lady!

--...wants to build something from the ground-up with her soul-mate, not wait for him (or her, if reversed) to "bring something to the table"). Thats what our grandparents did, and thats why THEIR relationships lasted so long.

--...doesnt think that their a romatic relationships are supposed to be like "chick-flicks"/soap operas (TV IS NOT REAL LIFE!

--...NOT into serial dating (I don`t "date." I know what I like and who I vibe with when I meet them...some of us have knowledge of self. It simply doesnt take all that time and money).

--...is NOT convinced that every man wants "a lady in the street and a freek in the sheets!" SOME of us want a lady 24/7!

--...who can hold intelligent conversations (about something
OTHER than her bills, jewelry, hair styles, the latest musical sensation, or something equally as lame) and not be too concerned about being either "cute," a "diva," or the next "supermodel" (read: is NOT a hood rat...that includes those who are, but don`t know it).

--...does NOT desire a "thug" (am I missing something? Who in their right mind wants THAT level of drama in their life?).

--...sticks by her man and attempts to lift him up and inspire him when he no longer believes in himself, not put him down or make him suffermore (if you can`t accept him at his worst, then you don`t deserve him at his best). Give him what he needs, notwhat he wants!

--...finally, does not say "I love you," "I think you`re the one," or "I think I`m falling for you" unless she either means it, or is sure she will always feel the same way (that means that you can still say and mean those things when things are not going the way you would like them).

IS THAT SO MUCH TO ASK FOR? (afterall, aren`t you women supposed to have so much better ethics than us men? LOLOL)

Any two people, if they want a relationship to work, can truly make it work; its only the imagined barriers (race, finances, national origins, religious differences, etc.) of one partner that get in the way. I guess thats why I believe so much what my grandmother once told me: "Never look for someone you can love, find someone who loves you"). I mean, in a world of such uncertainty, what else can anyone ever hope or ask for than someone who loves us? Simple advice, apparently just not believable.