Shanny75

Originally from NYC and moved to PA 3 years ago. What a difference from home but I had to go where the $ took me! It's an adjustment each day.




I'm a devout Christian woman standing at 5'6 3/4" LOL 180, med brown skin with dark brown eyes. I am also an independent woman with my own place, car, working full time, school full time and raising my 6 year old son as a single parent, and in the process of purchasing my 1st home...yippee. After reading the latter sentence, you know I am too busy and don't have time to play games. I have a child I can play games with!

You will not see a picture of me on here because many of you only look at pictures and make your determinations to send notes. A couple weeks ago, I conducted a test....My pic was posted on here for 2 days. The amount of notes received were almost tripled what I receive now. So, picture was taken off again because I want to make sure you read and understand the message I have put before you! If you choose not to respond because I don't have a pic, that's just your ignorance.

If you would like to chat further send me a message. If not, may you receive a blessing from reading and hearing His word, Amen!





Many men claim to be a GOOD man but how does the bible describe a good man? Read this and ask yourself, are you truly a good man?!

God's formula for a good man!!!

A good man is a SAVED man

When and if a person truly gets born again (John 3:3) then there will be a change in him. It may take time but there will be a evidence of a change. That is the outward evidence that a person is truly saved for only God knows the heart...

Therefore, the first quality of a good man is that he is saved, knows it and shows it. He will begin to look at himself and not like what he sees. He will make improvements in his life. He will want to please his Lord and Saviour.

A good man is a GOD-FEARING man

A man that is saved will fear the Lord. Fear in this sense does not mean to be afraid of someone but rather to have a healthy respect for that person


A good man is a STUDENT of the Scriptures

A man who takes at face value whatever he is told the Bible says, without ever studying it on his own, is lazy. A good man will not only read his Bible every day but he will also study it. He will not take what others say as "gospel" but will search the Scriptures, "A man won't be a real man until he knows the Book." - Dr. Michael E. Todd


A good man LOVES GOD'S WORD

A good man uses God's Word when trials and temptations come along. He can't do this unless he has committed God's Word to memory. A good man will talk about the things of God and his conversation will be directly affected by what's in his heart.


A good man OBEYS GOD'S WORD

(Psalm 37:31) The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide.

It is not enough for a man to read, to study and to quote Scripture. He must also obey what He reads in God's Word. The more a man reads and studies the Bible the more the Holy Spirit will reveal to him. It is what man does with that revelation that is important.


A good man is a man of PRAYER

A good man will have a good prayer life. A good man will have an open line of communication with God. That means that he has to know what his sins are. You won't have to tell him. And he will constantly and consistently confess them to God. A good man will get things right with God first because God is most important in his life.

A good man will pray for his family, his wife or wife-to-be (even if he doesn't know who she is yet) and his children (even if he doesn't have any yet). If he is single then he is asking the Lord to send him a good help meet (Proverbs 18:22). If he is married then he is asking God to help him take care of the precious "ruby" he was given (Proverbs 31:10). If he doesn't have children he is asking God to give him a heritage (Psalm 127:3). If he has children then he is asking God for help in guiding their lives (Ephesians 6:4).

A good man prays for his pastor. If he does then he will not be tempted to criticize him. He will not wish to partake of "roast preacher" on day of worship. A good man prays for others. He is not selfish, only thinking of himself and his own needs. He will try to help others if the Lord lays it upon his heart to do so. Spiritually, he will be a Good Samaritan.

Lastly, a good man will pray for himself. He will ask the Lord to direct his steps and to be in His will. (Genesis 24:27 - And he said, Blessed be the LORD God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the LORD led me to the house of my master's brethren.) A good man will not make a move unless he hears from the Lord. This will include his choice for a future wife, which will be to your advantage, should you be that choice

A good man WINS SOULS

A good man will not be ashamed to let others know that he is a believer in Jesus Christ. He will want to share with others the good news about what God did for them


A good man WORSHIPS God

(Genesis 24:26) And the man bowed down his head, and worshiped the LORD.

A good man attends church. That is a good place to worship God. At church he can be with other men who are like-minded in their beliefs. A man spends most of his time in the work force with ungodly people. Therefore one of the greatest times of spiritual refreshing for a man will be in church. A man needs to "recharge his spiritual batteries" every chance he can get.

Another good place to worship God is at the family altar. This is the time he spends in special prayer and Bible reading with his family.


A good man PROVIDES for himself and his family
A good man does not smoke, drink or gamble away his or his wife's paycheck or savings. He does not take food out of the mouths of his children or clothes off their back in order to feed his own shameful habit. A good man will put the physical needs of his family before his own.

Most men disable themselves by sin. Drunks and drug addicts find it difficult to hold down a good job. They are more interested in providing for their habit than they are for their families.

A good man is INCOMPLETE

(Genesis 2:18) Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." .

God determined that man was not meant to live his life alone. When God created the world he made everything in pairs. His command to them was to be fruitful and multiply. When Noah took male and female with him on the ark it was to reproduce and repopulate the earth after the flood. Likewise, when God made created Adam and Eve their primary responsibility was to populate the earth. They couldn't do that without the benefit and pleasure of having sex. God intended for a man and a wife to enjoy themselves. The shame and sin comes when a man and woman enjoy the benefits outside of marriage. (Genesis 2:24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

A good man will love his wife as God intended him to. He will not put his family, especially his mother, above his wife. He will not side with his family or mother against his wife. He will not put his children above his wife. God's ordained order in the family is God as head, the husband under God's authority, the wife under her husband's authority and the children under the authority of their father and mother. Any deviation from this will cause chaos in the home. Once a man leaves his family to marry, even if he has to live with his parents afterward, he is to put his wife above all others, except God. The Bible clearly admonishes him to do this. If he doesn't he is in disobedience to the Lord. A good man doesn't beat up his wife physically, emotionally or mentally. Any man who beats up a woman is not much of a man. He is a bully. A good man loves his wife according to the example of Christ and His bride, the church, for which He died.

A good man will LEAD his family

Fathering children is not something to be taken lightly. Psalm 127:3 tells us that, "Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.." Any man that has children and then does not take the responsibility of raising them or providing for them will have a lot to answer for at the judgment

A good man SERVES the Lord

There are many things to do in the Christian walk. They are many opportunities to serve the Lord. A good man will seek out those opportunities and take advantage of them.

A good man is a WISE man

A good man will definitely know the difference between good and evil. A good man will seek God's wisdom and not his own. A good man will also seek the advice of his pastor who may see things that he himself does not. Proverbs 11:14 - "Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety."

A good man will try to avoid sin. Proverbs 1:10 - "My child, if sinners entice you, turn your back on them!." A good man will not seek the companionship of fools or allow others to talk him into something that he knows is against God's law or His will.

A good man is HUMBLE

(John 3:30) He must increase, but I must decrease.

A good man will be humble. He will not seek the spotlight but gladly let others who are more talented, more creative, or more knowledgeable be out front. A good man will not get jealous when others are praised or rewarded even if he should have received that praise or reward.

A good man is not known by his talents or his abilities, or by his looks or his appearance, his wealth, his fame, or his fortune. A good man is known to God by his heart. 1 Samuel 16:7 - "But the Lord said to Samuel, "Don't judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn't see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart

2 Corinthians 6:14-17 tells us, "Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil[? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? And what union can there be between God's temple and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God said:

"I will live in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they will be my people. Therefore, come out from among unbelievers, and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord. Don't touch their filthy things, and I will welcome you,"

Good and evil are opposites, so are light and dark. Opposites, in the spiritual realm, cannot exist together. They will be at odds with each other.

If you've messed up and asked God for forgiveness then He has forgiveness you. Now forgive yourself. 1 John 1:9, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

A good man WAITS on God

(1 Thessalonians 5:21) but test everything that is said. Hold on to what is good..

A good man will check out any girl that he is interested in first before he takes that final step toward marriage. Are you faithful? Are you growing spiritually or are you at the same level you were the day you got saved? Are you in God's will? Are you willing to be submissive? Do you have a meek and quiet spirit? Are you seeking the Lord for a mate? Are you worthy to be the wife of a good man?

Psalm 37:23, "The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way."