th2damax

I¿m tired of wondering why I¿m
still single. But yet refuse to just jump into a serious relationship with just
anyone who¿s available.

If we really want anything in life we have to
make it a goal and write it down and take action, right?

Well what am I
doing? Sitting around, dating whenever¿whatever, then wondering why I¿m still
single. Knowing I want to be friends first but not making friends because I
don¿t really want to date different people, I¿d rather be with one person. But I
don¿t know that person yet. Wasting time and I¿m not really getting any
closer.



Enough is
enough!
No, I don¿t have to be married! No I¿m
not desperate. But yes, I do want to be married. So, it is now officially my
goal, whether I reach it or not, is fine. But it is my goal.
So I will start
to act like it.

My new
focus: ¿the big, no huge contradiction! color=#000066>

My
goal: To meet the right girl and marry her *bleep*! The rest ofher can
come along too, if she would like.
How: by
actively not looking for her :-)

I will not go out and try to find my
mate. But I will make it possible and allow it to happen when the time is right.
How? By being content to make friends. But actively doing so. I will go out and
find and make friends for the sakeof making friends. However I do know that
from those friends is where I will find my mate. I will make lots of friends as
many as I have to,as many as necessary or as few as necessary. Friends without
but secretly with romantic intent. Openly secret. ;-) No I¿m not retarded, I¿m
just a genius.


Friends
Must be good friends first
without romantic intent. I mean we are open ¿open with our past, open about out
present, open about our future goals, wants and desires. But we are not trying
to front or impress, because we are just being friends for the sake of being
friends. We are not desperate to impress because we do have choices. We are just
being us and trying to find someone that wants ¿the real us¿. We are not
limiting our options, we are not limiting the options of our friends. We are
happy for each other whether we end up together or not. We could talk about us,
we could talk about dates, we could talk about anything because we are ¿just
friends¿.


The Stars

We don¿t take it personal if
we don¿t choose each other as mates. Why? Because if we were people that would
take it personal, we might avoid making friends and dating because we don¿t want
to be hurt and because we don¿t want to hurt anyone. Also because we realize
that neither of us should short change each other. We also realize that to
choose mates that will be life long partners and soulmates, in a relationship
that gets better and better over time, like a fine wine¿ it doesn¿t just have to
be someone physically attractive to us, or not even just someone we love, not
just someone we like, or someone we get along with, not just a friend, not just
someone that¿s ok, or someone cool. Not just someone who¿s funny and makes us
laugh, not just someone who is stable andstrong, or someone who will protect
and stand up for us, not just someone intelligent,open and honest ¿. but it¿s
probably going to be all ofthose, or at least many of them plus some special
chemistry that just can¿t be explained. Let¿s face it, the stars have to be
aligned. Do either of us, best of friends, deserve anything less than that?


Don¿t worry be
happy!

¿if we could only get
past the guilt¿ the guilt of dating multiple people, the guilt of potentially
hurting our friends¿we could do things right¿wellll now we can.

We don¿t
worry about hurting one another or leaving each other because first of all I
think we should always be friends if we so choose. Secondly, we all will be
making friends and giving ourselves multiple opportunities to find the right one
for us. Out of love for each other as great friends we allow each other the
freedom to see whomever we choose and support each other in that. Be happy, your
friend will end up happy and so will you because you will get to choose, THE
BEST prospect, you will be able to make the best choice among your many options
and not be locked into the one friend you know and have been dating that you
both want to be married so why not let¿s do this. Nooooo! And with a variety of
choices, you have the luxury of taking your time because you are not as lonely
and don¿t feel hopeless or desperate. You have the luxury of looking deeply into
the character or your friends and not making shallow choices because the
opportunities are just not there..