now to answer the question that i get asked most often. (what do i look like)
I am 6foot4 and i weigh 245lbs, light skin and I am clean cut. I am a person who lives a very active life style. Yes, I`m 43 and still into sports and not just watching them on sunday. my main activites include going to church and working out.(i do both of the regularly and love it). so if you were wondering if I was some big fat hairy man who is lonely and living out some fantasy on my computer......guess again. i enjoy chat with people for all over.
like i stated eariler, I am single, 42 and i have no children(by choice). don`t get me wrong, I love children. I just don`t have any of my own.
I have been told i have a very positive personality(it`s true) and i have a very positive outlook on life. Every situation in life has a solution......seek it. this is one of the motto`s that i live by. I can do all things through Christ who strengths me.( i am sure some of you christains have heard that before....lol)
Now to my sista`s. first of all I love you to death. but let`s be real. I understand that you have worked very hard to build positive lives. most of you have done this against the odds. yes we know there are some lying, cheating, good for nothing, womanizing, game playing(and this list goes on) men in your past. but you have overcome reguardless!!!! and trust me when i say that the positive brothas have taken notice and we are proud of you. even if you don`t say it to you face.
however, you must remember even though we are all black men. we don`t all carry the same vision for life or the same values.
we have all had someone or one`s in our lives who would not treated us like the kings and queens that we all are. if this message does not apply to you.......keep living. but remember a few things if you still carry the hurt with you.
1- the person or peoplewho you hold responible for your hurt has moved on with their lives and don`t
know and/or care about you feelings. if this were not the case, you would not be caring these
feelings.
2- while you are sitting there hurting and letting this feeling fester. you have just let someone who is not
in your life control it to some extent. and in most cases you don`t even come in to contact with that
person on a regular basis........think about it.
3- while you are sulking, something that you have worked long and hard for just may pass you by. don`t
focus on the hurt someone has unjustly given to you. if you are not dead, you are stronger because
of it......and don`t second guess it, YOU ARE STRONGER!!!!! (more that a conquerer)
4- and most important. every person you come in contact did not hurt you. just a few, so please don`t
treat us all the same. you would not like it if someone did it to you. treat people the way you would
like to be treated.(if you want to be respected, give respect first......if you want to be loved, give love
first)
and i do know that this is a lot easier said than done. you have a life to live so live it. if past hurt keeps getting you down, you are just tiptoeing you way to a very unpleasant death.
remember life has been given to you so that you can enjoy it. so lets do just that. deal with what we have to deal with and do it with a smile on our faces. life is to good to let someone else`s BS get you down.
