Hello, to all the beautiful Black women on the Planet!There are
countless things which I could expound on about dating or the best
way to understand me as a Black man.These are relevant but profound
issues,not to mention time consuming and because of that I won`t go
into them.I`m more of the live and in color type
person.Chatting,notes,and instant messages are fine but they're
merely poor substitutes for face to face conversation.I can't tell
you how many times someone has misunderstood a joke or point of
view contained in an email or note simply because the person on the
receiving end can't -or worse-doesn't want to open their minds or
ask me what it is that I meant.I am not scarred by this but I wish
to prevent this as much as I can seeing as though I can only
excercise how I perceive someone elses words or actions and
inactions.We are living in trying times and I can truly say that I
have also been guilty of that same crime. At least when there is a
time and place for vocal communication,the two or more parties
participating can-if they're actively listening-gauge tone and
intent.I am human and with that being said I don't believe in the
concept of perfection but I am aware,philosiphically,of perfection
on paper.If there is one thing I have learned in my short time on this planet is to curb my expectations,that way,I'm less inclined to be disappointed.I don't have an idea of what my mate looks like,sounds like,or thinks like and I'm richer for that self imposed ignorance. Only God is perfect and we can only strive for-but
always- fall short. Also,let's not weigh each other down by the
flesh.It's understood that everyone desires a handsome,sexy, or
beautiful mate but then when and if one places too much value on
looks and the "relationship" implodes who is to blame for the
already present shallowness? Another strange paradigm I have
noticed in this wonderful world of dating:women who always state
that they are grounded,laid back,and drama free, who are usually
the most hypocritical women around.It's almost as if they're
waiting for the men to make the most minute mistake so they can be
proved right that all men are dogs,which in turn peels back the
thin layer of suppressed hate for men to the surface,seething and
viral in it's expression.It's a graphic and repungant sight to
behold.I'm also tentative about women who state too emphatically the qualities they want
in a good man yet when they meet said good man these qualities
usually don't translate into much of anything except the lip
service paid by the ladies.Please understand that these are just
observations;see if you can objectively see a specter of truth in
them.So if Black culture,music, art,and social issues like
relationships,real communication, and political protest are your
cup of tea,then by all means, proceed.Please remember to bring an
open mind,spirituality,sensuality(a s opposed to overt sexiness),
and your provocative sense of humor!
"The world is a comedy for people who think and a tragedy for
those who feel."
"The world would be unbearable if people were truly conscious of
it."
"People are feeling an immense sense of cognitive dissonance
because they are constantly surrounded by people yet feel no real
connection."
