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A dear friend recently attended an event to hear a popular life coach speak. The following I would like to share with you because IT IS TRUE! Take heed!
The topic is SELF SABOTAGE.
Things to consider to increase our self command:
1. Any person we desire to impress,control or dominate is always in secret command of us.
2. Any action taken to appear strong to another will be read as weakness. The harder we try to win respect, the less likely it is to receive it. It makes no sense to try to change how others see or treat us by learning calculated behaviors or attitude techniques to appear to be in charge.
Ten examples of self sabotage while wrongly assuming we are strengthening our position with others.
1. Fawning before people to win favor.
2. Expressing contrived concern for anothers well being.
3. Making small talk to smooth out rough edges.
4. Hanging onto someones every word.
5. Looking for approval.
6. Worrying that someone is angry with you.
7. Fishing for a kind word or compliment.
8. Altering your personality to impress another.
9. Gossiping or envying others.
10. Explaining yourself to others.
*Regarding example #10: In the moment of a question ask yourself:- -Is this personal question I am about to answer really what I want to do? -Is the answer I am about to give,without being asked, something I want to do? -Am I about to explain myself, without being asked, because I am afraid of undisclosed consequences if I do not? -By raising our awareness and resisting the inward pressures to be seen by others in a favorable light stops the cycle of lashing out, babbling and self sabotage. In a nutshell, I hope you got something from my notes. I love self empowerment topics etc. So PLEASE SHARE any uplifting knowledge with me ANYTIME!