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"Responding After Listening"Posted
The previous “Listening Before Responding” blog brought out many new ideas and input regarding how we listen in our relationships. Now, let’s focus more on responding.
After our love ones have made their point of view, how do or should we respond to it? There are different ways to communicate our responses after listening but at this point, whether the information we have received is negative or positive, it is crucial to take the time to think before we speak. Many times, we say things out of frustration or we do not take the other person serious and later have to apologize. How many times have you had to go back and try to clean up what was said out of anger or because of a you did not agree with your love one’s point of view. Therefore, just taking a minute or a second to make sure you are sensitive as well as honest in your responses could help in the discussion.
However, something that you don’t want to do and we are all human so we all make mistakes, but we don’t want to yell, threaten, intimate, lie or verbally abuse our loves when we are responding. However, I believe if the other person is yelling or screaming this may be a time to take a break from the situation and try to come back to it later. As I have grown as a woman, this has been a habit of mine early at the beginning of my relationships to make sure my love one understands that I am willing to discuss matters but not sit for hours yelling, calling each other names and screaming and responding about nothing. That type of behavior is not fruitful and leads to more confusion and hurtful drama.
To this end, responses are important, but we must be considerate and caring of the other person’s feelings. Remember we are talking about the people we love not, co-workers, associates or people we have met only one time. These are people who are apart of our lives everyday so taking the time to be aware of how we respond and communicate is detrimental to the livelihood and the development of our relationships.
Is there anything that you could add to help others become more aware of how we should respond after listening to our love one’s point of view?
Listening First Before Responding” My last relationship blog covered Communication – Taking It to the Next Level. After reading all the responses to this blog, I found listening to be an area that was mentioned repeatedly. Therefore, the following information may help one develop the “Art of Listening”.
I believe listening is a part of communication. One without the other may cause the communication in the relationship to suffer. When communication suffers, someone has left that conversation with the wrong understanding. Therefore, listening skills must be developed in order to truly effectively communicate.
Listening to what your loved one is saying can be achieved by stopping what you are doing and attentively concentrating on what he or she is saying. At this time, you are looking at them directly, if possible, not speaking waiting for them to finish. Then once he or she has made their point, one could repeat what they are saying and ask them if you have understood correctly.
Fully understanding his or her point before responding is very important. After your loved one has agreed that you have heard and understand what they are saying then you can respond to make your point but not before.
This skill is hard to master but I would like know what your thoughts are regarding “Listening First Before Responding” to your love ones.
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The Benefits Of EducationPosted
-Possessing a college degree may create additional employment opportunities. For instance, while interviewing with a prospective employer, the candidate possessing a degree has something other than work experience to present during that meeting. This could make one a stronger candidate. -Most times, graduating from college shows an employer that one is goal-oriented, has the ability to complete tasks and projects and can work under pressure. For example, a student must possess or develop skills in order to complete multiple assignments in a timely manner. Therefore, one must be able to follow directions and produce acceptable work and projects in addition to passing exams and writing papers. (These are some of the skills employers are seeking; obtaining a job is much more competitive now) I hope this discussion will be inspirational to those who need answers regarding education because I believe sharing knowledge should be one of the methods used to help others progress. What are your thoughts?...
Communication is a developed and learned skill that evolves over time. Some of us learn this skill while we are young from family members, friends or the media. Sometimes we further develop this skill later in life through educational institutions, our spiritual communities, jobs, etc. Because knowing how to communicate in our relationships is very important, the belief is that everyone should take the time to learn this skill and how to communicate with our partners and love ones. Likewise, effective communication may help one to grow relationships or develop new ones. Does this make sense or not?:
After you speak to your partner or the person you are dating in a non-threatening manner, you should give them the chance to respond, listen to what they have said and try your best to understand his or her point. Lastly, try to react and respond to what they have said as positively as possible. The whole purpose of communicating when there is an issue such as a disagreement or making a decision is to understand each other’s point of view first then come to some point of agreement.
When is the last time you really took the time to communicate and listen attentively in your relationship? Is the mistake to think that you can communicate to everyone in the same manner?
I noticed from some of the responses and notes, many people have questions about online classes. Please understand that online classes are offered at traditional and non-traditional colleges and universities. As a result of these classes, I completed my Bachelors Degree. A typical week for one of my classes online involved a schedule something like this:
The first day of class each week started on Tuesdays. This was a brilliant idea because it allowed students who worked during the week to complete the most rigorous parts of their assignments on the weekend. Most research papers, team projects and simulations were due on the weekends or Mondays.
I had at least three to four projects to work on each week. These weekly projects included a team assignment, an individual research paper, completion of discussion questions, class participation and completion of a simulation project.(This weekly outline is being used for a typical class; class projects and assignments could be more involved; it would depend upon the class).
-Team Assignments - Due on Monday
-Research Paper - Due on Monday
-Simulations - Due once or twice per class on Monday
-Discussions Questions (2 to 4) Due on Wednesdays and Fridays
-Class Participation - One must make substantial responses to classmates’ discussion question answers or assignments on at least four different days per week at least twice on each of those four days.
Today’s job market requires us to have more skills, education, etc. However, most of us lead very busy lives consisting of family, long hours at work, sometimes two jobs, running businesses, etc. My opportunity to receive my Bachelor of Science Degree came as a result of attending classes virtually; yes, all of my classes were online. I was able to complete these classes while working a very rewarding and demanding job. I feel it is my duty to inform everyone of my collegiate experience as an online student. Here are a few of my experiences regarding online classes at the University of Phoenix: 1) The classes are manageable; meaning there is flexibility in completing assignments and projects; even if your professional and personal life is in over-load. 2) The curriculum is challenging; most of the classes involve individual research and team projects. However, I believe most people who surf the internet could very easily transition into an online student. 3) The students are focused and serious about assignments, class discussions and team projects. Most students have similar goals and reasons why they chose online classes. 4) The Professors are very knowledgeable, proficient in teaching and willing to listen to concerns. I would like to know your thoughts, questions and experiences regarding online classes. Also, I have a Blackplanet group named University of Phoenix Students, http:/groups.blackplanet.com/UOP; check it out... |
