augthang's Blog

Good Black Men are indeed all around you. You pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Most you can`t see because you don`t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn`t flashy enough or rich enough to turn your head. He might not wear a suit or drive a Lexus. He might not have a "body like Tyson with a Denzel face." But, as you mature, you ll realize it`s better to find someone who`s got your back than someone who turns your head. A good man doesn`t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn`t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn`t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, he is (he won`t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn`t have to degrade you to prove he`s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same. A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don`t live to "catch" him doing something wrong so you can declare, "Aha! I knew you were a dog!!" A good man isn`t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, for the sake of "not hurting his feelings, or I just want to make him happy." His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her. A good man doesn`t necessarily give you a huge Birthday or Valentine`s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don`t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You`ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that all men are no good. It`s just not true.

I am who I am and I don't want to be changed nor do I want to change anyone else unless it is for the better for you or me. Always in life be true to yourself and to others. .Always be upfront in who you are and what you want out of a friendship or a relationship and you won't be surprised or disappointed later. Just lay everything out on the table. Be REAL.

Pledge of Manhood

I Pledge To Be A Man And Not Just A Male Or Boy. When I Was A Boy I Thought As A Boy And Behaved as A Boy. Now That I Am A Man I Will Think As A Man And I Will Behave as A Man.

I will develop and maintain a relationship with my creator

I will not use mood-altering drugs

I will treat women with the utmost respect

I will protect my family and community

I will take an active role in raising my children

I will set a positive example for all children in my presence

I Pledge To Be A Man And Not Just A Male Or Boy. When I Was A Boy I Thought As A Boy And Behaved as A Boy. Now That I Am A Man I Will Think As A Man And I Will Behave as A Man.

I will carry myself in a manner that will be uplifting to me and those around me

I will concern myself with the betterment of my community

I will be respectful of others and myself

I will not curse or fight my brothers or sisters

I will be responsible I will be humble

I will seek knowledge and strive to be wise

I will be supportive of my brothers and sisters

I Pledge To Be A Man And Not Just A Male Or Boy. When I Was A Boy I Thought As A Boy And Behaved as A Boy. Now That I Am A Man I Will Think As A Man And I Will Behave as A Man.

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Not Mine But True

Be careful who you covet, or your queen/king may just pass you by. Don't be so quick to judge a book by it's cover. In other words, everything that looks good TO you, may not be good FOR/TO you. So slow your roll and take the time to get to know someone.