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www.detnews.com/article/20091119/METRO/911190421/Family--Highland-Park-torn-apart-in-son-s-slaying

Janice Burkes, great aunt of Jamar Pinkney Jr., is comforted in the Highland Park courtroom on Wednesday during the arraignment of Jamar Pinkney Sr. on charges of killing his 15-year-old son.

Janice Burkes, great aunt of Jamar Pinkney Jr., is comforted in the Highland Park courtroom on Wednesday during the arraignment of Jamar Pinkney Sr. on charges of killing his 15-year-old son. Last Updated: November 19. 2009 12:57PM

Family, Highland Park torn apart in son's slaying Santiago Esparza / The Detroit News Highland Park -- Jamar Pinkney Jr. was known as "Teddy Bear" by parent volunteers at Martin Luther King Jr. High School for his willingness to give hugs and share smiles as he walked the hallways.

"He would come up and hug you," said volunteer Barbara Pittman. "He was always smiling." On Wednesday, his father, Jamar Pinkney Sr., stood mute as he was arraigned in 30th District Court in Highland Park on charges he fatally shot Jamar Jr. in the head Monday in a grassy field. A

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"There is nothing normal about killing your child," said Yolanda Cherry, Jamar Jr.'s aunt, as she choked back tears before the arraignment. "This is so sad." The court hearing pulled together details that have seeped out from police and family surrounding the 15-year-old's death: His naked march to the field, allegations of his inappropriate physical contact with a relative and the brutal end, with relatives describing a terrified boy begging for his life.

Jamar Sr. is charged with three counts of felonious assault and one count of felony firearm. If convicted, he will spend the rest of his life in prison.

Investigators said he marched his naked son out of a home at Rosa Parks and North Street and into the adjacent field, forced him to kneel and then shot him in the head. "No individual has the right to exact the death penalty on another, no matter how reprehensible the behavior," Wayne County Prosecutor Kym Worthy said Wednesday in court. "That is why we have laws."

It is unclear what led to the incident, although the boy recently told relatives he had inappropriate physical contact with a 3-year-old relative a few months ago, relatives said. Highland Park Police Chief Ted Cadwell said his department is not investigating any claims of sexual assault involving Jamar Jr. Cherry said the child was seen by a doctor Sunday and the exam showed no signs of sexual assault.

Cherry, who was present during the shooting, said her nephew did not deserve to be shot like a dog. She said Pinkney threatened her and the boy's mother with a handgun before beating and shooting his son. But other relatives who would not give their names said outside court that the elder Pinkney did not have a mean streak. One of Pinkney's attorneys, Corbett Edge O'Meara, said his client's state of mind will have to be considered as the case proceeds. "That is certainly something a prosecutor and judge and jury will have to take into account," O'Meara said. "It obviously is a tragedy for the whole family.

The entire situation is a tragedy for all involved." Cadwell said the family has lived in Highland Park for generations, making the case especially hard for that community. "Essentially we are dealing with family," he said. "Family is involved from beginning to end. It is extremely difficult to deal with this. They (victim's family) have been a part of the community for years." Cadwell said a gun has been recovered by police, but would not identify the weapon. He would not comment further about it. Meanwhile, at the high school, another parent volunteer remembered Jamar Jr. late Wednesday evening as a respectful young man. "All you had to do was reach out to him," said 60-year-old Johnny Swift. "He loved to talk." Principal Deborah Jenkins said Jamar Jr., a 10th-grader, was well-liked. Two crisis centers had to be set up at school, she said, adding that many students, teachers and support staff have been affected by the slaying. "Everyone has been shaken badly," Jenkins said. "He was articulate. He passed his courses with A's, B's and C's. Everyone knew him to be a nice, quiet boy." Cherry said her nephew enjoyed playing football and wrestling in area recreation leagues. "He enjoyed playing sports," she said. "He was a good boy."

Okay, this has been all the buzz around here lately with this incident, many people feel he did the right thing by killing his son, believing that the boy would have always been a child molester, and that with a good attorney he might get off. Some others feel that this was too harsh a thing for a man to do to his own son especially since the boy supposedly admitted to it. 

While I would find it very easy for someone to get that angry to kill someone over an alleged assault such as this on a child, I am not so sure about exacting that kind of Swift judgment when the perp is your "other" child, I would imagine a beating(near death, or death by accident. :) but its a hard call for me to say that he did the right thing by immediately killing the boy.  I am the first person to say that Molestation by anyone deserves a swift punishing, but when the perp is a child and your own child, I have still a hard time with the exact and immediate killing.

What are your thoughts about this?

Friends?

What a concept, what does friendship mean to you, what kinds of conditions do you put on it?

Friends, opposite sex friends, what are your true motivations for being a friend of the opposite sex? Is it in the hopes of romance? Marriage, yeah we have all heard that the road to any lasting relationship is through friendship.  But if romance is not on the table, do you end the friendship(Lady's, Gent's)?

Friends... What a concept, what is your motivator?

Does your friend have to get with your program?

Do what you want them to, say what you want them to, be what you want them to be?

What is your motivator?

What is the true cost of your friendship?

Is it honest and without too many conditions outside of reciprocation?

I have a question to men and women.......

Can you honestly be a friend without condition, and if not what are yours?

 Dreams of you, dreams of you

Are so fine, so fine,

baby Since I woke up

So is my state of mind Since we've been apart, baby

God has healed my heart

Used to go out looking for love

Now love is looking for me

And sweet music keeps me happy

Not so long ago, darling,

I was feeling sad

Who would've kissed my lips

I would've still felt bad, ah baby

There were times I've wondered if I was insane Ah baby,

I simply let my tear drop fall like rain Oh baby,

but when I kiss your lips

The clouds begin to roll away Uh,

down to my finger tips I feel the happiness each day Oh,

my Mama said to me She told me, son love goes where you take it

So, stay with the spirit, boy I feel that you gonna make it,

yeah Got me wondering, yeah

'Cause music's been my therapy

Taking the pain from all my anatomy

Music has never let me down

It's my symphony, always stayin'

in me Who'd know that the world ain't right, ah baby

Lots of people uptight I'll go crazy if something ever happened to my musical thrill

And darling your love is just like music

Music is the soul of the man

Music makes a happy day

Music makes the clouds roll by,

baby Your music kissed my tears and set my eyes

Your music makes me want to sing

Your music is a joy to bring

Music is my heart and soul

It's more precious than gold

You're like a song in my heart

I love every part A song,

you're like a song Happiness today is just a song away,

just a song I love your music, baby

I don't worry 'bout a thing Oh,

turn on your music, baby

See my happiness beam Your love is music Oh my darling,

yeah Your love is music, ah baby, yeah

And music is my life Turn on some music more

Hey, turn on some music more I got my music,

hey, hey I love my music, hey

We need the music I got my music,

hey I love the music, oh Turn on some music

Get off the music, ah Turn up the music Let's have the music, ha

Credits : Songwriters: Gaye, Marvin P

Today..........I've got my music, Hey baby...I've got my music......Humms.

Got any Music to share? Oldie and Goody.

Come another nightfall, where is he, she cries in the night begging the creator why not, she would do anything, that she might have him, give her soul, for his kisses, her life for her to be his wishes, her sanity to make him hers, her focus, for his light to shine.......

On me she says, for him I beg, for him I crave, sleepless nights I wonder where is he, daydreaming, is he thinking of me, scared, of what is going through my mind, as I lay at the foot of the bed clutching the sheets, wet and soaking another night broken, full of lust and yearning at the picture of perfection that my minds eye said to me had to be it.......

She begs the creator, I want thee, I would give everything I have, just to taste his lips, be in his arms, in his grip, slowly drifting off into another world, thinking of........

Begging for him, she soo crave his touch, his voice, his hand, still willing to give anything, even my land, as she lay there exposed to the stars, wishing, hoping, begging for him to take hold.........

Of , She begs for him to come, soaked pillows, turned pages, travels, turned stones, how do I get him, to see me, want me, love me........

For him She begs......

~LL~

Let not no one beg for anything, lest your desires kill you, fill you with every unhealthy thing and thought........

Embrace the hand that is extended to you in offering of their love and appreciation of you, for it is an easy thing to have once you open yourself up to it and as well embrace all its splendor.........May YOU find the love and peace within it from the one wishing to GIVE it to YOU.

*Smiles*

With love!

Poll: Happy, Healthy Obamas Out Of Touch With Miserable Americans

You be the judge!

Uh, yeah...........Watch the Video twice if you need to. :)

My brand of humor.

Okay, I got this from one of the groups, thought it was interesting enough, adults don't really talk about these things.

People tend to think that children and teens are the only ones who have to deal with peer pressure.

However, the media is constantly projecting their visions and ideas of what people ought to be like.

Men, women and children today are faced with many pressures of believing that they have to be a certain image or accept a certain view in order to be accepted and validated in this world.

There are several things that a person can do to overcome adult peer pressure. These suggestions may also help anyone who has to deal with peer pressure whether an adult, child or teen.

Step1 - Learn to accept and love yourself in moderation for who you really are. If you do not learn to love yourself, you will die within and be a puppet and people pleaser all of your life.

Step2 - Understand that you are unique and you have a right to like what you like according to your own genuine personality and interests without being made to feel pressured to become or get involved in something that's not really you.

Step3 - Have confidence in what you believe in and the boldness to stand for what you genuinely believe in regardless of scornful words and gestures. Adults can be just as childish and ill-mannered even more than children many times.

Step4 - Know that good advice and constructive criticism is a good thing. It is important, however, to distinguish between when it is good constructive advice and criticism as opposed to controlling manipulative and destructive advice and criticism.

Thoughts?

When does seeking validation  from external forces become dangerous?

What role (if any) does wanting to be popular(or maintaining popularity) plays in peer pressure?

How about insecurities? What role does insecurity play in how one deals with societal adult peer pressure?

Is all peer pressure a bad thing?

*I'll just sit over here and crack up*

I think I did this one already and just about everyone else...........

But......

Why do people constantly lie about dumb ish? and even better question is.....Why do people sit there and act like the elephant in the room(the obvious lies) isn't there?

What if all your petty little lies were called out of the closet, and even better what if they all of a sudden were in one room talking to each other and actually acknowledging the lies(Yeah, I just had a funny thought too. LOL!)  You think people would be less likely to do so, or become more clever at it?

Just watch the Video again.......

So do we ignore the obvious liar because we have our own motivations for acting like its not there and not done?  If your a habitual liar, do you constantly lie because people never call you on it?

It amazes me(even I amaze myself) when we know someone is a habitual liar and we ignore the liar and their lies because we want something else out of them, and if we acknowledge that they are constant liars then we somehow lose something.....Or do we.

Lets add the element of truth.........when truth is in the room....Most people(including you).......

(Oh Damn, didn't mean to use this one. thats a lie)

All this crap about truth and lies...........

Is a Lie, isn't it?

So.................Why do we praise the liar and their lies, and damned the truth and those that speak it(Oh, intents, love, all that B.S, right?)

But, over my 40 years of living, I done seen some folks lie and pretend over the most trivial of matters and the interesting thing is, is that it seems natural for them and folks to do so......

*Scratching Head*

Why do YOU enjoy the Lies over the truth?