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> There are people who can walk away from you. > > And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: > > let them walk. > > I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, > loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying > attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. > > When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never > tied to anybody that left. > > The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made > manifest that they were not for us. > > For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 > John 2:19] > > People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are > not joined to you, you can't make them stay. > > Let them go. > > And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their > part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in > your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. > > You've got to know when it's dead. > > You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got > the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in > good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know > whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes > too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. > > Let them go!! > > If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was > never intended for your life, > > Then you need to....... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your > worth..... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If someone has angered you . > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge....... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction..... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or > talents > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you! u have a bad attitude....... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new > level in Him...... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help > themselves...... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If you're feeling depressed and stressed.......... > > LET IT GO!!! > > If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling > > yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you > need > > to...... > > LET IT GO!!! > > Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new > thing for 2008 !!! > > LET IT GO!!! > > Get Right or Get Left... Think about it, and then. > > LET IT GO!!! > > "The Battle is the Lord's!" > > During the next 60 seconds, Stop whatever you are doing, and take this > opportunity. > > (Literally it is only ONE minute!) > > All you have to do is the following: > > You simply say "The Lords Prayer" for the person that sent you this > > Message: > > The Lords Prayer > > Our Father, who are in Heaven, Hallowed be Thy Name, Thy Kingdom Come, > Thy Will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day, our > daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who > trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation but deliver us > from evil. For Thine is the Kingdom, and the Power, and the Glory, > forever. > > Amen. > > Next, send this message to everyone you know. In a while, more people > will have prayed for you and you would have obtained a lot of people > praying for others! > > Next, stop and think and appreciate God's power in your life, for doing > what you know is pleasing to Him. > > If you are not ashamed to do this, follow the instructions! > > Jesus said, If you are ashamed of me, I will be ashamed of you before > My Father" > > If you are not ashamed, send this message... only if you believe. > > "Yes, I love my God. He is my fountain of Life and My Savior. > > He keeps me going day and night. Without Him, I am no one. But > with > > Him, I can do everything, Christ is my strength." This is a simple > > Test. > > If you love God and you are not ashamed of all the great things that He > has done for you, send this to everyone you know, and the person that > sent it to you! > > God loves you and watches over you everyday. By T. D. Jakes

IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant
to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't
mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he
probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year OR YEARS later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Alway s h ave your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if
he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a
two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not
supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him mis s you sometimes...when a man always know where you are,
and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you
need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to
appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them..

BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN

Is HE the ONE?
THE RIGHT ONE
First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one.







'What about love? Shouldn't that be the third? you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. 'The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9).







The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda.





It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: 'Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well spring of life' (Proverbs 4:23)!
Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.







Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.







Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.







Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively - it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.







But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.









1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship.





Is your potential spouse a member of the same family - the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.







You have had like exper iences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.







Furthermore, does he want to get married? I f you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.







Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.







2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.







Scripture says: 'He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord' (Proverbs 18:22).







Note -who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together.







At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam has no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere.





You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy!

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested.







Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: 'We love him because he first loved us' (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself.







You need only one man - your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again - WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you - this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship .







3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart . A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you .







4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward.





Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will t reat y ou. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do.Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.







6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.







7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.







8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. I s the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.







A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he want s you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.







Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.







9. Complimentary.





Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wr ong.







This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost.





Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals .







10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you. A man's relationship with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. I n his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.







If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.







So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less f rom a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for what they truly desired.The truth of the matter is everyone knows that anything worth having, costs and no one gets a ride in this life for free.







Our prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father God,
I confess that I have not always been as careful as I should've been with my heart. From time to time, my desire for love has caused me to leave my heart in the wrong hands. I now commit my heart into Your hands for safekeeping. Please help me to stop being so impulsive with what you deem so precious. As I learn to celebrate Your love for me, let me learn from Your example what a bridegroom should really be like. Help me to never settle for less than what you desire for me. As I embrace You as the Lover of my soul, keep my affections in the haven of Your own heart. As I rest in Your love, make me more discriminating of those who approach me.






I ask that You take over this area of my life. Keep me from those You know would hurt my heart. I invite You to set a hedge around me and keep me from all who would draw me into unfruitful relationships until the day you present me to the mate that You have selected for me. Grant me the discernment to recognize him as he recognizes me. Cleanse me from the temptation to typecast the men I meet according to what I see. Help me to trust in Your knowledge and lean not on my own understanding. I know that You know what is best for me; therefore I yield to Your choice. In Jesus' Name. Amen.







Ladies this is something you should definitely share with a friend, whether you are single or married... It is something to think about, When you ask is 'He' the one!