Your_Brother's Blog

A new friend had one of those boxes on their page and had ask three questions of what you would prefer in a prospective mate. The questions were Sex or Communication, Body over Brains and Committment over Money... Many of you who know me from Yahoo 360 already know that I tell it like it is and I don't hold back any punches...I don't take sides whether you are a man or a woman. What's right is right and what's wrong is wrong... So I check off the answers and I couldn't help but make a comment to the questions and here is the following: Most of us do not realize that the most important things in this world can not be touched nor possessed. We tend not to prioritize these unique gifts and for that many relationships do not succeed beyond any level whether its a relationship between mates, relatives, plutonic and even between parent and child. You see I made separated parent and child from relatives, all because this relationship is the ultimate and most intimate among all relationships. The Key to all human relationships is communication.. It is the foundation of the relationship...Once communication dies, the relationship will ultimately die. You keep the communication open there lies the life of the relationship. Sex is something of a physical nature. Sex is great amongst a couple.. Sex is okay amongst two individual for gratifying each other physical needs and there is no doubt about that.. But have you ever been in love and found that the sex was greater? It comes to show you that something of a physical nature becomes more intensed by bringing something of a spiritual or an emotional nature into the circle. Let me ask you a question....You have someone in your life...a great mother or father to your children someone who loves you and understands you more so than anyone else in this world. Suddenly they met their fate that left them not able to function sexually. What do you do? Leave them? Compromise your entire family circle in order to look out for your own needs? So now whats most important sex or communication? Body or Brains? I am not going to be so long winded with the latter of the two questions but I will say this..Both do correlate in the same way as the first question, between sex and communication. Body and Brains. First of all I would like to point out that most people who have brains take care of their bodies. Then there are those with great bodies who do not have that much brains and they tend to compensate focusing on there bodies to rather than consuming knowledge. They also have one fault as well, they tend to live in a shallow world where they feel that their undaunting beautiful bodies will last forever. Let me ask you this what is more appealing, having a deep conversation with some form of intellect or chit chat of the same subject with a booming body over and over again...I had one time experienced the latter...It burned my ears off..I couldn't take it anymore. Now that body isn't booming anymore either. The last one is very simple to answer...What would you prefer a prospective mate to bring to the table committment or money? Hmmmmm? Hard question, not to me....I am an independent man. I prefer my prospective mate to be independent financially and emotionally. However what if you came across somebody who was filthy rich and I am talking filthy rich...and powerful...But however they can not be committed. A committment is one goal each relationship should attain. Being committed to one another gives security in that relationship...If there is no committment people tend to go about there business freely, having affairs freely...And thats a dangerous thing as far as a relationship and of course their health...God did not put us on this earth to casually date, he put us on this earth to marry one another.

For those of you who read my blogs of the past I spoke to you about relationships, failures, misery and so on. This year I am continuing my efforts in providing information on many couples who are contemplating marriage, protecting there marriage, or simply looking for ways in surviving there marriage. Well for all of you who saw my last blog, I revealed that there is a new woman in my life. Her name is Michele and how we met was by divine intervention. How are we coming along, well lets put it this way By this time next year we will be planning our wedding. Some of you who you and I have been carrying a friendship for sometime when the news came out about Michele already saw wedding bells. Well I didn't want to go there but I had an inkling and the reason why I didn't want to go there was because I wanted to be sure for myself and I wanted Michele to be sure. How we came to this conclusion of contemplating a relationship directing itself into marriage is something that is not a traditional way of "hooking up". The traditional way a couple hook up is they meet, they get attracted to each other, they flirt, they party, they dance, they go to dinner. Michele and her AKA girlfriends were supposed to have come to my Grand Lodge Mardi Gras Dance and never showed up. The cause was due to one of her friends was going through some boyfriend problems. Well that night I spoke to her and the next day I made it my way to meet her at her church. Afterwards we attended a Superbowl party along with another Masonic brother and his girlfriend at a restaurant near my office. At that point on I knew that Michele was a keeper. Today Michele and I do not see each other every day but at least we speak on the phone at least every night. Last week after dinner we went to a Barnes and Noble bookstore. While perusing books at the store we came across a couple of interesting ones. One was on wedding vows, and the other was a book titled "Couples Who Pray", by Squire Rushnell and his wife Louise DuArt . A very informative book, and very powerful book which takes a look into how couples who pray literally stay together. Two of the subjects of this book is the infamous Mr. Denzel Washington and his wife Pauletta. There are also some very interesting quotes from Pauletta Washington's mother as well. Mrs. Pearson (Denzel's mother in-law) in having a pre marital conversation with her daughter describes the original design of marriage is of God. It's remarkable to see two people in show business to have survived in marriage twenty seven years. And for the most part they point out that they are a couple who pray constantly together. As I mention With Michele and I conflicting schedules we hardly see each other, but we find time to pray with each other over the phone right before bedtime. I am telling you, you just would not believe what it can do for your relationship. Not only does it strengthen your personal relationship with God, but it also enhances your relationship with your spouse and alleviate inharmonious behavior which many couples goes through. Well Michele and I are preparing on establishing a spiritually rich marriage together. She's graduating this year with her master's degree then next September she will be attending Temple University persuing her law degree. At the same time I will continue to work in addition to finally giving into studying at Trinity Seminary School where I be working on my bachelor's in Biblical Studies. Who knew six months ago my life was leading in this direction. If you had told me what was ahead of my life I would have probably thought that you was a nut or something, but I hear Michele whispering in my ear whatever you want to do you can do it. She is very supportive, and for the most part they say that praying with your mate alleviate arguing, we don't argue. We have not come to that part of our lives to engage in a confrontation. Another quote from Mrs Pearson during that same conversation as before, " 85% of success or failure in a marriage is on you!" Its not fifty/fifty a couple who wants to succeed must be ready to go the whole nine yards. Think about it, we will talk more tomorrow. Have a blessed day my brothers and sisters. I truly miss hearing from all of you.

I decide this day to love my wife, to give up my interests, to take on her interests, to not be controlling, but to be a godly leader by educating myself in the ways of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Today I declare that I'm a different man and when I go home, my family is going to see a different man. I am a man of love, right now, in Jesus' name.

I boldly confess that I am a loving, caring, attentive husband. As God's Spirit works in me and transforms me more and more into the image of Jesus Christ, I am becoming a better husband to my wife because I love her deeply and I regularly show my love to her. She feels secure and confident in our relationship. As a result, she is willing to follow me wherever God leads and is supportive of my decisions. Investing in my life partner is the best investment I can make in my own life. Therefore, I choose this day to invest love and attentive care into my relationship with my wife the most important person in my life. I declare this by faith, in Jesus' name. Amen.

Ten Things to Do to Honor Your Wife

A. When you and your wife approach a door, open the door for her and let her go through first.

B. When your wife walks up and down the stairs and when she gets in and out of the car, show enough consideration for her to reach out and take her by the hand, helping her up and down the steps and in and out of the car.

C. Instead of spending all the extra money you have on yourself and on your personal pleasures, sacrifice a few of your own desires and give her the extra money to spend it doing something she likes to do.

D. Tell your wife often how beautiful she is to you.

E. Speak honorably of your wife in front of your children.

F. Take your wife to dinner or lunch often.

G. Call her during the day just to let her know that you're thinking about her.

H. Make time in your schedule to be only with your wife.

I. Men don't like to write notes, but women love to receive them so write your wife a love note.

J. Always remember special dates, such as your wife's birthday and your wedding anniversary.

From time to time I come across people and they are nice people on the outside but on the inside they are miserable. These people don't realize that the essence of their spirit shows on their outside no matter how deep they tried to hide it on the inside. The essence of what I speak of is their thoughts and their outlook on life. <font size=4>There was a joke that was told to me a longtime ago and now that I look at it from a philosophical point of view I see that the joke is entirely true. A man who had no friends, always went to bat against anyone who stood in his way and didn't agree with what he said. Always ready to talk about or to judge someone. But yet they are always miserable. They can not stand up for themselves but yet they are always looking for someone to pick them up or even

to pick them up and bail them out of their misery. So this man went to the counselor, the counselor told him that he couldn't help him after a month of counseling and no results. The counselor said that he should go see the shrink...... The shrink said after a month of psychotherapy, " I know that you are miserable but there is nothing that I can do to help you, maybe you should see a special optometrist. Well the man said it couldn't hurt. So the next day the man went to the doctor. As he went into the office he held the instrument to his eyes and then told the man to pull down his pants and bend over. The man looked curious? Why do you want me to pull down my pants. The doctor said to him. Not only am I an optometrist, I am a proctologist. The man looked at him then said ok". He took the gloves and probed him then he said to the man, ok now pull your pants up.. HmmHmmm. Okay, I found out what the problem is. You are suffering from analretinitis. "Sir what is that?" It is a condition when the nerves of your eyeballs get misconstrued with the nerves in your azz hole and you see a %#&@$!ty outlook on life. </font></font></p>
<p><font size=4>When people are confused, they tend to get to the point of being frustrated. People also have this thing when they are miserable they always have to say " I hate this person and I hate that person". Why do you hate them? "Because they always think they are all that". "Because they are always thinking about themselves" . "Because they don't do what they suppose to do." But what do that have to do with you? Nothing. But yet you would talk about them, shed ridicule about them, spread rumors about them, and try to persuade people away from them. But in the meantime, you are still miserable. There is one thing that I can say that could change the way that you see things and may change or life and the way you feel....You change and stop worrying about others.