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Women are doing some serious complaining about guys these days. The reasons seem to vary from woman to woman, but one complain theme seems to be the common thread linking these women together and that theme is the notion that chivalry is dead.

If you were raised like me in an old school environment then you know what I'm talking about, if not take notes. There was a time when men acted like men, and no I'm not talking about being overly masculine; I'm talking about when being a gentleman was the correct way to be. There were certain expectations that went along with being a gentleman things like opening doors for women, pulling out their chair and letting them wear your coat when they got cold were a few of these expected actions performed by men. While these things were expected of men they were always met with gratitude, which leads me to my point. If it's true that chivalry is dead then there must be a murderer and a murder weapon, so the question because who killed chivalry and how did they do it.

My take on things is if chivalry is dead then the women killed it and lack of gratitude was their weapon of choice. We're living in a time when giving someone a simple friendly compliment is looked upon by some women as a man trying to get into some panties. Some women have what I define as the "Queen of Sheba complex" which is when a woman expects things to be afforded to her because the whole world and all its inhabitants are indebted to her. Women with that type of complex are the ones who I know without a shadow of a doubt I've crossed paths with.

I'll give you an example. I was at a store with my mother, and upon entering the building I opened the door for my mother and saw a woman walking behind her so I held the door for her also. She walked by as if doorman was in my job description. Here's the kicker though, on the next set of doors my mother held them open for the woman to which the woman thanked her. When it dawned on me what happened I asked my mother how is it that she thanked you and not me? I was so angry I had two initial thoughts 1)I'll never hold a door open for anyone else's ungrateful %#&@$! 2)next time that happens I'm going to ask the woman why she didn't say thanks. *as you can see I was so hot I contradicted myself in my own thoughts.

I'm sure someone somewhere is going to try to explain why she didn't say thanks so let me beat them to it.... Maybe she thought that she was the Queen of Sheba and I was one of her lowly minions to which holding the door was my duty? Perhaps she was a lesbian who saw me holding the door as a desperate attempt to convert her? As silly as those explanations are they are easier to comprehend than why someone can't express common courtesy. In fact, the acts of kindness associated with chivalry are actually based on courtesy and respect, and why one act of kindness can't be met with another one is beyond my comprehension.

Here's another mind baffling example. I treated a woman to a movie and dinner because I liked her company and the relationship was strictly platonic. I assumed she had manners when I saw her thank the waiter for taking care of her order, yet I never got a thanks for the dinner or movie. Now some people will get it twisted thinking that I do nice things for acknowledgement -- not the case at all. I was just raised to know that if someone is doing something for you it should be acknowledged AND appreciated no matter how big or small the gesture because they didn't have to do anything for you. I know for a fact that I'm not alone in this because I know a plethora of men who all share similar experiences.

The bottom line for me is women need to understand that this so called death of chivalry is nothing more than cause and effect. Since women are meeting men's (and I mean good men) acts of kindness with a severe lack of gratitude (cause), men are doing away with acts of chivalry (effect).

I know after this blog entry I can expect to see angry mobs of women with torches and pitchforks outside my house threatening to burn stuff down, but someone has to wake them up out of them long slumber. So I submit to you today that chivalry is alive and well, maybe a little abused, and taken for granted but alive nonetheless. It's gratitude that is in desperate need of resuscitation. You can not go around campaigning to resurrect chivalry when you are the one who are mindlessly sending it into hiding in the first place; bring back gratitude and watch the influx of chivalrous men waiting to put you back on the pedestal from which you fell back in the land of Sheba.

I got an interesting response to my Sexy vs Beauty blog entry so I decided to do a part 2. Since the original focus was on how some women get the concepts of sexy and beauty twisted, it's only right that I focus on why fellas get it wrong on this one. A woman who commented on my blog left an interesting response with some valid points.

Basically she was saying how even when a woman is nicely dressed, and not trying to bring the wrong type of attention to herself, there are always some guys who use the "you look sexy" comment. The reason is because even when unprovoked, a man can take one thing he likes about a woman and use it to stir up sexual desire within himself. Making a comment about a woman looking sexy is actually him projecting his thoughts from his desires onto the woman. So whether she's nude or wearing a hijab it doesn't matter, his train of thought is on sex and that will be all he sees.

Where fellas go wrong is in the misreading of attractive qualities some women possess. They begin to see every little thing that might be a turn on to them as sexual. For example confidence is a turn on for men and women alike, but where a woman likes & appreciates a man with a healthy dose of self confidence, some guys see a woman with confidence and are drawn to her not acknowledging it's because she possesses a pleasing quality, so they override reason and chalk it up as "she's sexy" then the sexual thoughts kick in.

As men we need to remember we are sexual beings, but that is only one facet of our lives, we are much more (should be much more) than seekers of pleasure. Lack of discipline is the source for a great number of problems men put themselves into, brothers need to fall back and start questioning why they think the way they think and do the things they do; there should be a logical reason for everything someone does. When we understand self then and only then can we begin to understand our surroundings. The first step, ask yourself why do you see every woman as a sexual object. If you keep it 100% with yourself you'll be surprised at the conclusion you come to. Then you may begin to understand sexy vs beauty.

1) Take care of your children, they didn't ask to be brought into this world. From the time they're born it's an uphill battle that takes a FAMILY to fight, without you most won't make it.
1b) Stop making babies you know damn well you ain't gonna be there for.
1c) If you know you don't want to be there for your kids, STAY out of their life- don't promise to be there having them waiting and you never show up.
2) Elevate your mind, realize there aren't any females on this earth named. "Yo", "sweetheart", "babygirl" etc.
2b) Except fate- If a woman isn't interested don't get mad at her, it's called preference.
2c) Stop calling women out their names if they don't give you the time of day. You're either not their type, coming at them wrong, or maybe they have someone already.
3) Leave women with a man ALONE. You mofos are quick to try and take another man's woman but are ready to murder if someone takes yours.
4) Get a dose of reality- if you're over the age of 20 and you ain't get signed in major league sports or get a major record deal then guess what pa, it just might not happen.
4b)Have a backup plan- if your dream is to be a professional athlete or entertainer cool, but also get yourself a backup plan so if that never happens you'll have something to fall back on.
4c) Stop focusing on sex- sex is a precious gift not like free samples that should be given away to anyone. You guys complain about how your woman is, but guess what you knew how she was ahead of time, but overlooked it because she gave you the booty.
5) Get a job- you can't sell dope forever and frankly it has no benefits package nor a retirement plan. If you want to sell drugs so bad, go to school and sell pharmaceuticals- it's LEGAL drugs PLUS you get a nice benefits package, 401K plan and you can retire from it.
6) Get an education- since the beginning women have always been attracted to educated men. There is no shame in increasing your knowledge.
6b) when you obtain an education, do better! There is nothing worse then a person who's educated acting like a damn fool. When you know better do better.
7) Stop blaming the white man. True enough there are certain obstacles that every black man must face in this life, but no man can stop your greatness WHEN you put your mind to a task. The white man doesn't make you do the foolish stuff you do.
8) Put the guns down. If you're a real man and need to handle something don't hide behind guns, throw those hands it takes more courage and the only people who will get hurt are the 2 people fighting.
9) Love yourself- you have no sense of love because you don't love yourself. Learn to love yourself and you will have the capacity to love others.
9b) Love your women- Love is an umbrella term for respect, trust, loyalty, honor, cherish, etc. So when you say you love someone you are also saying you respect, trust, honor, etc., them.
9c) Stop cheating- you cheat because you're trying to fill a void deep within yourself. Understand that material things don't fill that void. All the kitty in the world will never fill that void. Look at #9 to learn to fill that void.
10) Stop trying to be a gangster. The life a gangster leads is one of pain and sorrow. Their future is death and dishonor.

1) Wear your OWN hair- STEP AWAY FROM THE WEAVES! 2) Stop saying you're THICK when in fact you're FAT (embrace your fatness) 3) If you're not advertising for anal sex stop taking pics with your butt all in the camera 3b) Stop taking pics in bathrooms- it's not cute nor sexy 3c) If you take a pic in front of a mirror CLEAN THE DAMN MIRROR 4) Stop chasing men forsaking your children 4b) Stop using child support money on your own self and use it for your children 4c) If you're gonna come outside looking fly, you need to take the same pride in your children coming out looking fly 5) Leave the attitude at home, you may look fly but looks fade and bad attitudes are for dogs 6) Stop wear pants that show the crack of your %#&@$!, "plumber pants" ain't cute on nobody 7) GET A JOB- finding a man with money does not count as a job 8) Stop entertaining no good men. The more you give no good guys some play the worse you make it for everyone. When those idiots realize you can't get a woman with their foolishness then they'll be forced to grow the hell up 9) Stop forsaking the good guys. The more you play the good guy the more you turn them into the idiots mentioned in #8. 9b) For black women- stop bashing brothers who don't have as much as you. You don't want them because they have little to off so don't get pissed if they go outside their race. It's because you push them away that they end up with someone outside the race who saw the same potential in them you overlooked.

I saw a funny video on YouTube where a brother asked what initially was a funny question. When he broke down the reasoning for the question I realized the brother had a good point, and so I will present the question to my readers...

If you've ever taken a few minutes to look at different pages on BP (you know you do so don't front) then I'm sure you've noticed some repetitive 'themes' in regards to pictures people post on their pages. From the pictures of folks holding up money, to the infamous "prison poses" on guy's pages, to the now infamous picture in front of a dirty mirror. Those are the most common types of pictures you'll see here on BP, but there is another type that is the focus of this blog entry.....

It's the back shot. You know where women are bent over booty tooted up in the air like they're waiting for something, while looking back at the camera. Yes folks the infamous backshot. The thought behind pictures is they in essence are advertising something, whether it's a beautiful location, an individual's beautiful feature(s), or just plan ol' good times, pictures do indeed have meanings behind them.

This has to make you wonder, if pictures advertise something, then what are these women who take pics in these provocative booty poses advertising? In the video I mentioned watching the brother posed the question, "do these women who have those types of pics want anal sex?" I'll be honest; based on the pictures I've seen, I noticed most of the women who were all bent over had big booties, so I assumed that they were proud to have a nice back side and took a picture of it. But when you think about it you can still see a nice booty even with the woman standing up.

Soooooo.......it really makes me wonder if the brother was on to something? Don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with ladies who are into anal sex, more power to you, but for the women who aren't into that you may have to rethink what message your booty pose may be transmitting to those who can see it. It sounds silly but keep it real; if you saw a pic of a woman deep throating a banana you'd assume that she gave oral sex, and probably roll your eyes if she said she wasn't into oral sex. Just food for thought.

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