I got an interesting response to my Sexy vs Beauty blog entry so I decided to do a part 2. Since the original focus was on how some women get the concepts of sexy and beauty twisted, it's only right that I focus on why fellas get it wrong on this one. A woman who commented on my blog left an interesting response with some valid points.
Basically she was saying how even when a woman is nicely dressed, and not trying to bring the wrong type of attention to herself, there are always some guys who use the "you look sexy" comment. The reason is because even when unprovoked, a man can take one thing he likes about a woman and use it to stir up sexual desire within himself. Making a comment about a woman looking sexy is actually him projecting his thoughts from his desires onto the woman. So whether she's nude or wearing a hijab it doesn't matter, his train of thought is on sex and that will be all he sees.
Where fellas go wrong is in the misreading of attractive qualities some women possess. They begin to see every little thing that might be a turn on to them as sexual. For example confidence is a turn on for men and women alike, but where a woman likes & appreciates a man with a healthy dose of self confidence, some guys see a woman with confidence and are drawn to her not acknowledging it's because she possesses a pleasing quality, so they override reason and chalk it up as "she's sexy" then the sexual thoughts kick in.
As men we need to remember we are sexual beings, but that is only one facet of our lives, we are much more (should be much more) than seekers of pleasure. Lack of discipline is the source for a great number of problems men put themselves into, brothers need to fall back and start questioning why they think the way they think and do the things they do; there should be a logical reason for everything someone does. When we understand self then and only then can we begin to understand our surroundings. The first step, ask yourself why do you see every woman as a sexual object. If you keep it 100% with yourself you'll be surprised at the conclusion you come to. Then you may begin to understand sexy vs beauty.
