CASANOVAL's Blog

6. Know how to perform the 3 C's (cook, clean, & cater to)- Every man must know and master the 3 C's in order for his woman to be abundantly happy in their relationship. The 3 C's are not a must, and a relationship can work good without them; but they're added bonuses that can and will make a relationship work better. The first C represents how every man should know how to cook, at least a little bit. And I'm not just talking about cooking for the sake of making a good impression, but I'm talking about willingly cooking for the two of you or for the family when your woman is running late, and is unable to start dinner at the usual time. I'm talking about willingly cooking when your woman is tired and just doesn't feel like it. I'm talking about willingly cooking to take some of the day to day routines away from your woman from time to time, giving her an opportunity to live outside of the redundancy. Of course cooking to impress her with your culinary skills from time to time is always good as well. The second C represents how every man should know how to clean. It's plain, it's simple, and it's to the point. Every man should know how to clean and disinfect properly and effectively; if you don't know how to do this than you should make it a point to learn. Again, this C takes away from the redundancy and patterns that a woman may find herself caught up in. Saturday mornings may be her normal cleaning time, and instead of her doing the expected wake up at 8am and clean until 1pm routine, why don't you wake up at 6am or 7am and start the cleaning for her? When she asks "What are you doing?" although it's quite obvious, just tell her that you're making her a day a little better and brighter and that she can go back to bed. If you don't know how to clean, again be willing to learn. Ask her to show you how she likes for things to be cleaned so that your mistakes will be minimal and not too many clothing items will be shrunk or dyed the wrong color. The third and final C represents how every man should know how to cater to his woman. Catering to a woman involves you taking the time to really show her that she is appreciated. Appreciated for everything and not just some of the things that may be more pleasing to you than others. Appreciated for her sacrifices, her investments in the relationship, her compassion, care, and concern for you and the family you may have together. A woman who feels appreciated is a woman who is happier, more secure, more confident, and easier to get along with honestly. When a woman knows that she is appreciated she will return that same love and appreciation to you, and the end result is two people who consistently contributes to one another's happiness and self worth. There are many things you can do to show a woman she is appreciated, and what you do not know you should take the time to learn. Washing your woman's hair, doing her nails for her, full body massages, special things that you know she enjoys doing, quiet evenings alone (without you or the children, if any), and a host of other options are available to you. Like I said if these are some things that you don't know how to do, you need to learn how to do them and perform them masterfully. Trust me, she'll love you even more when she knows that she is loved and appreciated.

7. Know how to make love (really make great love)- If you ask, the majority of men will say that they are great lovers, or great in bed when that is not hardly the case most of the time. Far too many men have sex and they don't make love nor do they know how to make love; there is a difference between sex and making love that more men need to understand. You very well may be great at having sex, but still your performance when it comes to making love can be very poor. Having sex involves two key ingredients to be successful for anybody, and that's you and another person. It doesn't take much and that's why the benefits of it are minimal as well. Making love takes more, it gives more, and the benefits exceed and last longer than any physical orgasmic experience. Making love involves more than you setting the right mood, although that is key. It involves more than you touching the right places, although that is vital. Making love involves you, as a man, being emotionally connected to your woman. It involves you having the power to tap into what stimulates her, not only physically, but spiritually, emotionally, and mentally as well. It takes you coming outside of yourself and making room for her to be drawn into you so that you can pleasure and please her without her having to instruct you as you as to how to do so. Love making is not a physical act, although a physical encounter can definitely be the end result of love that has already been made prior to any sexual confrontation. Love making is you knowing your woman, knowing her spirit, knowing her heart, and knowing her body; it's you knowing what it takes to bring out her essence of Eve. What's her essence of Eve? A point of revelation for your woman, when she knows that she is your rib, your help, your partner, your lover, and that she was created for the sole purpose of walking and living out her destiny with you. Now that's making great love indeed. If you can get your woman there, then by all means you deserve all the accolades you and others praise upon you.

8. Know how and when to disagree (energy transfer)- Every man needs to know how and when to disagree. Any couple that tells you that they don't have disagreements is a couple that is lying to you, or is being controlled and manipulated by one participating party. Everything that you disagree with is not cause for a verbal lashings to erupt; understanding this first is key when knowing how to properly argue, debate, and disagree. Sometimes instead of making something into an argument its best to see your woman's point of view and de-escalate the situation by not agreeing with something you disagree with, but seeing peace in your relationship as more of an important factor than what it is that the two of you are disagreeing about. If the point of disagreement is considered to be "serious" than communication is the first area that you have to perform exceptionally well in when disagreeing successfully. As I said some things simply take compliance, on both parts, while others take strategy. Strategy not as far as getting your way, but strategy as far as keeping the peace even in the midst of a disagreement. And just so you know compliance doesn't make you weak, it makes you wise enough to know that not everything is cause for a dramatic verbal explosion or intense discussion. When your woman is upset, disagreeing with you on a particular situation, and is approaching you to express her feelings but it it's more with a negative vibe of energy, the best thing you can do is calm the situation before you address the situation. Most shouting matches don't happen automatically, and they can be avoided if you strategize properly. Remain positive even in the midst of a negative disagreement and transfer that positive energy onto your woman so that the situation can be discussed and a resolution can be achieved. Take her by the hand and let her know that you don't want her stressing and yelling and that you definitely want to discuss the situation but in a manner that's less stressful for her, and more effective for the both of you. If she's in that "Don't touch me" zone then don't touch her. Some men do things to purposely agitate their women during disagreements and that is not the smartest thing to do. Take her seriously and don't play with her feelings, but also be a man and be strong enough to take control of the situation and de-escalate it so that it can be better discussed. Your woman will respect you and your strength when you approach the situation unafraid to change the dynamics of it so that all viewpoints can be heard and considered.

9. Know how and when to let go- Holding on and harboring anger, bitterness, and un-forgiveness is never a good idea and is emotionally unhealthy as well. A man has to know and understand how to let go, and when to let go. Let go of what you ask? Let go of anything from holding grudges to holding mistakes or failures over the head of not only those closet to you, but anybody in general that you are holding something over or against. Un-forgiveness is a form of imprisonment that binds you more than it does the person you are refusing to forgive. Resentment is an understandable act of human nature that occurs when someone does something, repeatedly more often than not, that totally disregards you and your feelings. However, you can't hold resentment over a person forever and if you can't see yourself one day not resenting them then you really need to question rather or not you should continue being with or associating with them. When do you let go? You let go when you know that holding on has become more of a problem than the problem that you are holding on to. I understand that, at times, we all need a minute to get ourselves together when we're upset with someone but when that minute turns into months and years than that's a problem. Real love carries all burdens and offers no resentment or un-forgiveness with it. Forgive those who have wronged you, and forgive yourself for wronging others. Don't hold failures and mistakes over your own head either; that is the easiest way to repeat similar patterns of failure, when you don't give yourself a fair chance to succeed. Most of the time letting go helps you more than it does the other person, because more often than not they don't even know you're holding anything against them anyway.

10. Know how to love (unconditionally love)- Every man must know how to truly love his woman; without boundaries, restrictions, reservations, or limitations. That's true and real unconditional love. When nothing and no one will ever have the power to take you away from her, or your family. Problems will always exist, and life is made better because of them. If life was perfect everyday how would you know when and how to be happy and who and what to appreciate? Problems help you to appreciate others, yourself, and life in general because they encourage you by letting you know that you can overcome them and come out on the other side better than you were going into the situation. Problems empower growth, if you let them. Just because you have a problem with your woman or your children doesn't give you the right to be mean, cruel, or unfaithful to them. A foolish man uses the excuse that "She is my problem" when trying to explain away any of his negative behaviors. If you truly love your woman you will love her in spite of, in the midst of, and because of. Love doesn't come with clauses if it's real love. Love doesn't come with problem free guarantees if it's real love. Love comes with happiness, sadness, highs, lows, understandings, and misunderstandings; that's what makes love dynamic and unable to be controlled. Stop trying to control love by controlling the pace at which you give or demonstrate it. Let love flow freely through you and from you. Love your woman and your family unconditionally and always have a heart that is accepting of them, no matter what. That's when you know that you know how to truly love without condition.

Lonnie J. Hamilton

Copyright 2009

1. Know how to listen (be attentive)- When in a relationship with a woman, in order for that relationship to flow smoothly and be a successful one, a man must master the simple technique of knowing how to listen and be attentive to what it is that his woman is saying (and sometimes what she is not saying). Sometimes women speak in codes and they say one thing and mean another; therefore it is vital to always be in a position of paying attention. And not only that, but a man also has to know how to deal with what it is that he is paying attention to. Listening properly also involves a man responding properly. It's as simple as if your woman is talking about cars; it would not be wise for you to respond by talking about trucks. Pay attention and address what she is addressing, and if you are unsure about something that is being said, ask and never assume. How will you know when she is speaking in code? Because what she is feeling and trying to explain she won't be able to fully (verbally), yet she will expect for you to understand what it is that she is saying; funny I know. You understand what it is that she is saying and not saying by paying attention to all that she has said previously. Become a master at piecing together what she is saying by knowing and understanding how she is feeling. You understand how she is feeling by paying attention and knowing how to listen.

2. Know how to pray- It's a must that a man knows how to pray; how to pray over his woman, over his children, over his life in general. A man must possess the ability to go before God in prayer and actually know how to pray. It's not a question of religion or religious beliefs more than it's a matter of relationship. Every man should have a strong enough relationship with God to know how to seek Him through prayer. A man who can tap into his spiritual side, along with his emotional and physical sides, is a man more apt to be able to tap into his woman and children's spiritual, emotional, and physical sides; which is great for a better understanding of them. Whatever your religious beliefs may be, there is some form of "god head" placed ahead of it. I am one who believes in the one and only living God, however many men don't practice this same belief, but that doesn't excuse them from knowing how to pray. Praying is simply talking to God, and every man should know how to do that for the sake of his family, himself, and his future.

3. Know how to be a provider- Knowing how to be a great provider is simply a man knowing what it takes to properly care for his woman, and his family. When a man chooses to position himself as the head of a relationship and/or household, and his woman trusts him enough to be compliant with that, he has to understand that being in that position means that he is willing to do whatever whenever to ensure that his household is properly provided for. There is no such thing as "down time" when it comes to being a great provider because you are one who is always in a process of providing, and a process of motion when it comes to the cultivation and advancement of your relationship and household. It may sometimes take you literally working your fingers to the bone to provide for your family; you have to be willing to do just that. A man has to know how to provide spiritual support, emotional support, and physical support; also a man has to be willing to not only involve himself but evolve himself so that in turn others will evolve around him, and things will constantly be in a process of growth and positive change.

4. Know how to be a protector- A man who considers himself a good protector is a man who has the mindset that, no matter what, his family will be protected, free from worry, and safe from harm. Rather its him praying down strongholds that are trying to destroy the firm foundation the home is built upon, or going toe to toe with an intruder that is risking the safety of his family, a man has to be willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that his family is able to live in peace without stressing over potential dangers and mishaps. A man must have the heart, mind, and will to stand guard and protect his relationship, marriage, and/or family from various attacks in various realms. A man must possess the understanding that not everything potentially dangerous happens in the "physical" realm, and that some wars are fought through intercession, which leads us back to number two. If you are a man unwilling to live, fight, and die for your relationship, marriage, and/or your family then you need to think about why it is that you have them. You being passive, timid, and scared are risks that you should be taking on your own; don't put others in harm's way by involving them in your self emasculating behaviors.

5. Know how to take control without being controlling- The term control means to exercise restraint or direction over, and a man must know how to be one who is always in control without being controlling or overly dominating. A man must know how to control his own emotions, feelings, and actions along with those that are present in his relationship and/or family. You control the atmosphere of your relationship with your woman, with your children, and in your home by demonstrating fair and just behaviors at all times, by not provoking anger and disagreements, and by leading by example and influence not by fear and intimidation. Controlling men are men who are completely out of control. They think that with a loud deep voiced yell, or some extra dramatic aggressive behaviors that what they say will be done and that it will always be their way. Those types of men have no idea as to how to control themselves nor the atmosphere of the environment they are in. It's called controlling confusion; when a man thinks he's in control yet he has none at all. All he is doing is causing others around him to resent him and feel the need to get away and stay away from him. A man who is in control knows how to practice proper restraint and not always be a ticking time bomb waiting to explode. He also knows how to give and take direction and lead without forcing others to follow; they will want to automatically.

Lonnie J. Hamilton

Copyright 2009

Love is many beautiful and wonderful things, and to experience it in a fleeting moment or if you?re fortunate enough to experience it for a lifetime, is truly a remarkable experience indeed. The only hard part about love is when you have to let it go, or give up on all of the splendid possibilities that it offers to you when it is shared with someone that brings out the best and most beautiful parts of you. That?s the part about love that hurts; in my opinion everything else is not easy, but it?s all manageable and when you are willing to do what it takes to keep your love strong, enriched, inspiring, passionate, unconditional, and preserved, love will take you through and see you through almost anything.

Letting go of love after experiencing it, or even simply feeling it for a brief moment, is the hardest part about the entire love experience. We all say we want love, and we all seek love, sometimes in the wrong places or with the wrong people, but the bottom line is we all want love and want to be loved. Love is such a powerful and strong entity, yet it is fragile and delicate and must be handled with care, concern, compassion, and carefulness. Having to say good-bye to love, or to someone you love is the hardest part about falling in love in the first place. We sometimes use the ?word? love too loosely without really knowing what it means to truly love. Without knowing how it feels to truly love. Without knowing what it takes to truly love.

We take for granted the fact that love exist, not knowing that it may not always be there. In a moment?s time love can vanish, be taken away from you, or you will be forced to give it up, along with its many possibilities. Love will never be easy, so one should not expect for it to be. It will not always be fun, but it will always be fair. It will not always be comfortable but it will always be comforting. Love is not the problem and that is the misconception that far too many of us have. We are the problem; our human nature and how we handle the many complexities and unexpectedness of love is the problem.

We suffer heartbreak and we blame love. We suffer relationship setbacks and we blame love. While in the process of crying our emotionally turbulent tears, we blame love. We blame love for our damage, our hurt, our pain, our bitterness, and our reasoning for being unforgiving. Again, love is not the problem, we are; or those of us who handle love inappropriately. I lost someone that my love was genuine and sincere for, but I do not blame love. I blame myself and the sometimes unfair circumstances of life. However, I will always love and embrace love when it comes in the many forms that it does.

Love is many beautiful and wonderful things, and to experience it in a fleeting moment or if you?re fortunate enough to experience it for a lifetime, is truly a remarkable experience indeed. The only hard part about love is when you have to let it go, or give up on all of the splendid possibilities that it offers to you when it is shared with someone that brings out the best and most beautiful parts of you. I had to do that; it was hard but I let go because I love and not because of love. There is a major difference between the two that far too many of us unfortunately do not see.

L. Hamilton

Copyright 2009

*From the forthcoming poetry book "When a Woman Cries"

You ask for me to trust you, but I have been hurt and in turn trusting another man has become hard. You ask for me to love you, but I don't think that I can take the pain that a love unfulfilled will bring to my heart. You ask for me to need you, but still I become afraid when I don't know who you are with or where you are. You ask for me to draw closer to you, yet how can I do that when still from my true self I feel so very far?

I am woman so I am complex, and my emotions sometimes get the best; of all that I am so all that a man will receive from me is the incomplete rest. I tend to sometimes think that I am not seen for anything more than my beautiful lips, my full hips, and my breasts. There is so much more to me than that, but no man has had the power to tap into my feminine wells so that out pouring will come what is seen less.

I am intelligent, I am independent, I am strong, and I depend solely upon myself. I have heard it all before how you will be there to stand with me through all the trials that come along with femininity, yet so many times I have been deserted with no help. My life was not supposed to be like this, this is not the plan I had nor the cards I felt that I was dealt. Yet here I am again trying to connect with yet another man, who attempts to make himself appear as my "halo" as I sometimes endure my hell.

Well, I am not Beyonce so more love songs I for one do not need. I am mother, I am father, I am daughter, I am sister, I am friend, and I am employee; bottom-line I am me. However, I am not bitter but I am not on Twitter so you're going to have to use more than social networking sites to truly see; who I am beyond the surface and why I still am hurting from the fact that no man has been man enough to be considered King; or at least my King.

I mean, do you really want to see me? The real me that I sometimes tend to hide? Do you really want to see my menstrual emotional side? And what will do if you happen to see me cry? Do you want to experience, I mean truly experience what being a woman is like? Because while you're more concerned with your swagger and your fly I'm more concerned with my children, my bills, and my what I'm cooking for dinner tonight. So excuse me if I do back-flips when you ask if you can "come by".

Come by and do what? Help me with all of this homework? Or help me cut this grass when my hands, feet, and my back hurt? I mean come by and do what exactly? Help me in the kitchen? Or help me with my children? Or were you expecting something different? Do you want that giggle girl whose attention is on looking good enough to spark your interests? Well if you do then you're a fool for even attempting to become the link that I see missing.

And I don't mean to be rude or crude, but my heart compels me to speak the truth. It has suffered enough brokenness from me hiding behind the veil. I don't need you but I need you, and I need you to be believed to. Convince me through your actions, and not just your words, that you are the one man that I can cling to. The man that I can reach out to, because the second that you cause me to doubt you, is the second that I out you, cuss you out, or clown you.

Not because I'm a drama queen, or an overly sensitive emotional wreck. Only because if you took the time to manipulate and deceive me, then once I find out, you do deserve to be checked. And I've played the break up to make up games, and I've involved myself with men of success and men who are suspect. But the one thing I have not done is truly feel that a man and I connect to a point where any loved shared would be able to endure time's test.

Will you be there to be that ministry that speaks God into our family? Will you be the first one up for church on Sunday, encouraging the rest of us to follow your lead? Will you connect with me spiritually and bring to my sometimes weary soul, calm and peace? When I make love to you will I really be making love to God in human form, and know even more that sincerely He does love me; just as great and just as much as you?

I'm a sweetheart but I'm tired, I'm sometimes lonely, and I'm sometimes sad. I'm happy, I'm unhappy, I'm sometimes up and sometimes down, I'm confident, I'm secure, and I'm mighty; therefore I refuse to belittle myself to becoming nothing more than your piece of a$$. I don't need a wanna be thug, rap star, trap star, or "down low brotha", I need a MAN. No, I want a man because I can meet my own needs and I desire a man who's confident and secure enough in himself to realize that I can; and he'll let me.

But that doesn't stop him from doing for me those sweet little things that make me blush. That doesn't stop him from being open and honest when we are conversing about HIS future plans for US. That doesn't stop him from coming by not to see me, but to play football or video games with my son; or show my daughter love with something as simple as a strong, masculine, fatherly hug. And no I don't expect you to be the father of my children, but I do expect you to accept them and get to know each one. They've seen the in and out boys go and come; they now need to see a man who is indeed man enough.

And when you do all of these things, and a few more, I will have no problem surrendering to you and submitting to opening up; and trusting you enough to fall and let go of myself, allowing you to rescue me with love.

Copyright 2009

There's a nationwide phenomenon that's causing a lot of confusion, negativity, and turmoil in some cases, and I thought that it would be best to address it directly and bluntly. Now, this phenomenon is not at all new but it is one that's becoming even more prevalent in many social groups, networking circles, churches, websites, clubs, and any other "meeting place" that you can imagine. This phenomenon of course is lying; people telling bold face lies to avoid rejecting someone and/or hurting someone's feelings. Many of us are guilty of participating in this type of behavior simply because we hate to feel as though we're being mean to someone who may take an interest in us. Instead of us thanking them for their interest but saying no thank you to anything further, we would rather give them the wrong number in hopes of never running into them again, or tell them we'll be right back only to never return once they inquire about giving us a call.

Many of us play it off like we're interested, lie about seeing someone when we're obviously seeing no one, or we take a chance on "growing" to like someone that we really are not attracted to from the beginning all because they seem nice enough to grow on us. We exchange contact information, talk for a while, and go out on a few dates only to come to the same conclusion that was already there from the beginning; I really don't like this person. Not saying that they're not a good catch for someone else, that's just saying that there is no attraction there so why try and force one? Out of being nice we damage feelings and pride more than just being honest in the beginning. Using excuses and telling lies in an effort to ditch the interest of someone you're not attracted to or mutually interested in will only make matters worse when they find out that you have been playing this game with them all along.

Many people would rather you be completely honest with them instead of stringing them along and making it seem as though you're slightly interested in them. Also, just because a person is nice doesn't mean that they're right for you. Pity phone calls and dates, because a person seems too nice for you to reject, is worse that you rejecting them initially because the day will come when you have to let them know that things cannot progress any further between the two of you, although they were under the impression that the two of you were flowing smoothly into a beautiful and blissful relationship. Also, ignoring phone calls and/or text messages hoping that someone will finally "get the picture" and leave you alone is also a very mean way of handling things when you could have just been honest with that person from the beginning. Now, I understand that many of us don't want to come across as being stuck up, mean, or downright rude to people only because they like us, and honestly you don't have to be. Being honest is not being mean or rude, it's being honest. Being mean is lying to avoid rejection and the possible confrontation(s) that may come from it.

Rejection is a very strong word and many of us have experienced it, and we all have to learn how to accept and deal with it because it will happen to all of us on one level or another. Many women tell me that a lot of men just can't seem to take "No" or "Not interested" for an answer and they push, pressure, and continue to be annoyingly persistent. In that case you have to reiterate your non-interest and then remove yourself from the situation. If he happens to show his true colors and call you out of name as you walk away from him then thank God you chose to be honest instead of nice to such a man. Just think if you would have ended up taking a chance on him because you didn't want to be mean or hurt his feelings? When being honest and feeling the need to reject someone's advances towards you all you can say is "Thank you, but no thank you" or "Thank you for the compliment of being interested but I'm off the market" or "I'm not interested, but thank you." Those are a few nice but also honest responses among many that most people, who are mature, will accept and not feel too bad about. Don't let the conversation drag out for 10 minutes when you knew in 10 seconds that there was no interest being sparked there.

Many of us deal with avoidable drama and emotional rollercoaster rides all because at one point we chose to be nice instead of honest. Too many times we confuse honesty with meanness and the two are definitely not the same. Even outside of meeting people many of us choose niceness over honesty in our everyday lives, only to end up with not so favorable results. In our relationships we're nice to one another more often than we are honest with one another, and sometimes that causes problems. Not saying that being nice to your significant other is a bad thing; I'm saying that while you're being nice to them learn how to be 100% honest with them as well. Men if your lady asks you "Do I look fat in this dress?" or "Do these pants make my butt look big?" what do you think the proper response should be if the answer is already clear? Now, the most common response would be "Of course not; you look all good." when clearly that may not be the case. Now, I am not saying that you should tell your lady that she looks fat in anything because that would be mean and hurtful, but if she happens to be trying on or wearing something that doesn't compliment her very well then you should be honest enough to tell her and expect the same from her in return. If the dress or pants are unflattering then you can answer her question with a simple "Baby I don't think that compliments you very well in all honesty." It's a nice and simple response and also an honest one without coming across as being mean or hurtful. Also, it doesn't hurt to learn and take notice of what looks good on your significant other so that when you have to be honest with them about an unflattering ensemble, you can always suggest something else that may be a bit more tasteful and complimentary.

Some women will still get upset over that response whereas others will not, but whatever the case may be still your honesty has to be respected and appreciated. Also, for the women reading this and thinking "My man better not ever say something like that to me", how many times have you let him go out of the house in a shirt that was too small, pants that were too tight, or shoes that were simply worn out? You have voiced your opinions or concerns on many occasions when it came to his wardrobe, so respect your man's honesty when he does the same, in a nice way of course. Couples especially should be honest with one another in all things and not just in clothing matters. Of course there is always a time for niceness, but honesty should be more of a learned behavioral pattern when dealing with your significant other, or anybody for that fact. We live in such an emotionally fragile society that people have chosen niceness over honesty in hopes that no repercussions will occur if we hurt someone's feelings. Many employers are too nice to their employees and vice versa because to be brutally honest puts too much at risk. Parents are sometimes too nice to their children and become too lenient because of it, thinking to be brutally honest with them will somehow stunt their emotional development and cage the free spirit that they are trying to become. It's too much going on in the world today for us to simply be nice to our children; we have to be open and 100% honest with them as well.

Whatever the case may be, honesty is still and always will be the best policy. We all should work to be as nice as we can, but when the choice to be made is between niceness and honesty, always choose honesty. No one likes to be rejected or have their feelings hurt, but even more than that no one likes to be lied to and manipulated into thinking something is that really isn't. Not many of us like brutal honesty, depending on the situation, but the outcome from being 100% honest is so much better than the one that occurs from being nice but dishonest. Learn the difference between being mean and being honest and always practice honesty, but don't confuse the two and think that they are the same when in fact they are very different. Do not let this nationwide phenomenon become a part of your everyday life, and if it already is then you need to break the cycle of dishonesty that you are practicing so that you can be known as a person who is honest and straight forward when it comes to the truth. Make truth telling a firm belief and, no matter what, never stray from it or from your efforts to include niceness in with your honesty as well. The key point to remember is to always be honest because lying, while being nice, causes more problems than being honest ever will.

Lonnie J. Hamilton of The Core Being Consulting Group

Copyright 2009