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I have a YouTube account, and from somewhere this one guy, CrociatoAzzurro, finds me and decides he wants to leave me comments and message after message. The messages said things about how I was going to get aids, my kids will be ugly with their nappy heads, how they're going to be little niglets, half-mutts, I'd just be a trophy to black guys, everyone laughing at me, and so on. The comments were him just saying I was an n-er lover, how I was going to get aids again, what I liked more, their big lips or their stench? All of that. At first when I read all of that, I was so heated. I was saying all kinds of things to him. I usually don't cuss a lot... but oh, I just went off on him. I was going to delete all of his racist comments on my page, but I decided to keep them. I decided to keep them because I'm going to let the whole world know, or at least the YouTube one, know how racist he is, how big and bad he tries to act behind his computer screen by trying to put me down by calling me names. Sorry, it's not going to work, though. I do know that there are still racist people out there, and they don't want to see me with a black man or any other race or anyone else in the same situation. But with everything, you have to take the good with the bad. I think that the good out triumphs the bad 100% more. I am not going to let him nor anyone else try to tell me I can't be with or decide how I feel for someone. How I feel is all up to me - no one else.

People so get on my nerves when they dog on me for liking black guys. I decided to write this when I read my friend Rachel's blog about people doing the same to her. For instance, I have this friend Armanda. And her boyfriend Johny always calls me a mudshark. That's a person that likes black people, for those of you who don't know. And then her cousin Chris, he was staying with her for a few days, I did also.. and he is a redneck, i guess you could say.. Because he was like I like coffee and I like tea, but I don't like n-ers, no siree.. Uhh, that made me so mad.. and he kept on saying that n word, only because he knew it made me mad. And whenever Armanda and I are watching tv, or whatever, I'll be like, oh i like him.. ( for whatever reason - not like that ) and she'll be like why, cause he's black..??? She kept and still keeps on saying stuff like that.. and that shit gets on my nerves. And now Armanda is talking to her cousin Chris on the phone, and he told her to tell me that I would love Indianapolis ( that's where they went/moved to ) because it has all kinds of black people there. Whenever I am on BP, I go to the Who's Online tab, just to see who's on, and if i would want to talk to them or whatever. I would click on one of the dudes, then maybe go to his pictures.. And sometimes, some are pretty cute, and I would say that. She would just look at me, and be like, but he's BLACK. I'm like who the freak cares that he's black. And then she'll also say that they look nasty, ( 95% of them ) because it looks like they're covered in sh1t. Now, that shit makes me mad. I don't freaking know why people are just so dead set on only seeing color. It DOES NOT and it SHOULD NOT matter. So, everyone should already know that I like black guys.. but I also like white guys, and every other color in the rainbow. But, personally, you shouldn't even see color when you look at somebody, you should look at them for who they are, and not what color their skin is...

75 Lessons that MUST be Learned in Relationships. 1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. 2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. 3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone. 4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. 5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. 6. Don't force an attraction. 7. Slower is better. 8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. 9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. 10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order. 11. Don't settle. 12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. 13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that? 14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. 15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess. 16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. 17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you. 18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? 19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince. 20. Always put yourself and your happiness first. 21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. 22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. 23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested. 24. Be honest and upfront. 25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along. 26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on). 27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom). 28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee. 29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within. 30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard. 31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. 32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. 33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you! 34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see. 35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go. 36. Actions speak louder than words. 37. Never let a man define who you are. 38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that. 39. Never borrow someone else's man. 40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. 41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him. 42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time. 43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life. 44. Love is a verb ... 45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving. 46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. 47. All men are NOT dogs. 48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. 49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else. 50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart. 51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. 52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. 53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. 54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it. 55. Never become your man's "therapist". 56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions. 57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work. 58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you. 59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted. 60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure = him to spend time with you, You cant force a man to hang out with you. 61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't. 62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 63. Never move into his mother's house. 64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone. 65. Never co-sign for a man. 66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent. 67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you. 68. Never let a man mess up your credit. 69. When it's time to let go; let go. 70. Good men should be treated like good men. 71. Don't play games. 72. You can't make a %#&@$! into a housewife - or husband. 73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. 74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important. 75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.