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Why are you bytching and moaning about what's not working?

Has complaining ever gotten you anything? If it did, it was only so that people could shut you up! Get rid of you! After that they start avoiding you and not taking your phone calls.

It may sound silly but gratitude actually works. By now you should know that every one and every thing has energy and a particular vibrational frequency. When you start bytching and moaning you connect with people on that frequency - the nasty clerk at the post office, the funky teller at the bank, the crazy cab driver. You are on their frequency. Just like a radio, you're picking up their static or like a cell phone - you're in a dead zone.

Shifting into gratitude raises your vibration. As you find things and people to be thankful for (especially the little things) you draw to yourself MORE opportunities and people to be thankful for. This ain't easy but it can change your life!

What do you want, a greater life or more stuff to bytch about. The choice is YOURS!

Hazellespiration 2009

Love

Hazelle

Do we "Use It" or "Lose It"

HANNIBAL  

DECONSTRUCTING HARRY  

WHAT I WANT MY WORDS TO DO TO YOU  

 DO WHAT YOU ARE AFRAID TO DO!
Part (2)
By Hazelle Goodman
© 2009

Let’s be real, committing to being unstoppable is a nice idea but when you’re scared or heard “no” too many times its not so easy to keep going.

When I came from Trinidad with my big dreams to be a movie star I lived on Herkimer Street in Bedstuy with my single mom and that’s when I found out I was dark skin. Every day at 3pm the African American kids (we were black back then) would beat me up for being too dark with a funny accent and on my block they called me names like blackie and spookie! – Shoot up until then I thought I was fabulous and couldn’t wait to come to America and be a movie star like the kids I saw in “Sound of Music”

It took me years to get over that traumatic time. But my mom fed me loving doses of praise and had me read tons of positive thinking books. Norman Vincent Peale’s “The Power of Positive Thinking” gave me my first shift in Conciousness. He made me aware that I could control how I felt and how the world responds to me by controlling my thoughts. Later, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, and Ernest Holmes became my teachers.

Today, Scientist Gregg Braden in his book The Divine Matrix confirms the truth that thoughts are energy and how we think and feel does create what we experience.

So of course now I experience compliments all time. I be looking for compliments. When I catch somebody staring at me – I'm thinking – They think I’m fabulous!

Stop worrying about what other people have or what they’re doing or not doing. Most of the time, we read people wrong anyhow. They look good and we see them doing things and going places and we assume they have no fear. Not true. Anybody doing anything significant experiences fear on a regular basis. They just Don’t stop! Or sometimes they do stop for a minute. They may stop to regroup, energize or refocus. I’ve had to stop and do that in my career. After breaking through in film and television, then hitting some disappointing turns I had to stop and rethink my Vision my Dream then recommit.

Stop waiting for everything to be just right before you follow your dream. It ain’t never gonna be just right. I thought when my son was 18 I’d be free. Now my mother is 90 and needs my attention. Stop waiting for the right amount of money, the divorce, the wedding, the promotion. Life is now. 

You can’t wait for everything to line up – you’ll never have enough money, people will always disappoint you. They’re human. It’s not personal. Don Miguel Ruiz reminds us of that in “The Four Agreements”. You just have to harness your mind and follow the vision. The Universe will send to you all the people, money and whatever you need at just the right time. Stay focused on the Vision. Your dreams can happen now. Take one “breath” at a time and you will be surprised at how far you’ll reach. 

Develop the daily discipline of gratitude, thanksgiving, meditation, visualization. Taste the vision, meditate on it, see it and take action daily on it. Surround yourself with positive people regularly. All of this will help to give you a new mind, a courageous mind.

To live your dreams fearlessly requires work but it’s an inner work. You have to work quietly but persistently in your heart. When negative conversations rise up in you, stop them. Don’t buy in and start listening and agreeing. Have compassion for yourself and change the conversation to one that celebrates you and reminds you of your Greatness. This ain’t easy. You will have to do it again and again. Diligently seek out empowering books, tapes, teachers etc. Then Practice, Practice, Practice.

The only thing standing between you and your next beautiful desire is YOU. Change you and your life will change. Strengthen your Mind and you will become Unstoppable.

Finally, say what you are afraid to say. Tell somebody you love them today. People are afraid to do that. Let somebody know you care. Do what you are afraid to do. Say what you are afraid to say. Ask for what you are afraid to ask for.

And no matter what let your light shine! Cause this little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine! (:

I love you!! 
© 2009

 There’s a Gold Mine in You

There’s a Gold Mine in You

 Love

Hazelle

© 2009 by Hazelle Goodman<o:p>

All My Children - Attorney, Lynette Neal
All the Invisible Children - Herself
Deconstructing Harry - Cookie
Ed - Ramona
Hannibal - Evelda Drumgo
Heat - Dead Hooker's Mom 
HBO Comedy Hour - Hazelle (Millie, Bertha, Jeri Curl Ann, Willie, Shauntice, et al)
Homicide - Georgia Rae Mahoney
Law & Order - Ms. Gordon
Rosie O'Donnell's Kids Are Punny  - Narrator 
Spalding Gray - Stories Left To Tell - Stage readings
Third Watch - Rita Gordon
True Identity - Mile's Neighbor
VAGlNA MONOLOGUES - Herself
What I Want My Words To Do to You - Herself
Whiskey School - Laine Kazan
 

Susan Boyle –Dreams Do Come True No Matter How Old You Are!
by Hazelle Goodman
© 2009 


There's a Susan Boyle and a Simon in each of us which one is running you?

Last night I finally saw Susan and understood why she had millions of hits. She's us! She's reminding us that dreams don't come true only for the young, skinny and beautiful. Dreams come true for all of us if we have the courage to first face the Simon within us then the Simons in the world - Dream stealers I call them.

You have to build the inner strength to not be discouraged by them and the awareness to recognize them in their many disguises.

I think Susan had several key elements that had her breakthrough to her dream. She may not have been concious of them but here's what I saw:

1. A clear Intention
When asked by Simon, she clearly stated her dream, what she wanted and why she was there.

2. Support
Perhaps those guys backstage were relatives but they clearly believed 
in her. Also I’m sure a good girlfriend, a lover or a neighbor told her she could do it.
You need that! Find that for yourself and be that for someone else.

3. Action

She went !

4. Release

You gotta let go of what you got (if it ain't working) to get what you don't got. I don’t know what or who Susan had to let go of but she did and the rest is history.

Let’s follow her footsteps!

Cheers to the Susan Boyle in You!
© 2009 

Love
Hazelle

"JUMP OFFS" MOVIE TRAILER

Are You "The" One or just a "Play" Thing.
© 2009 By Hazelle Goodman.....

I saw a movie recently that was so powerful to me. It was a very raw and provoking look at how "some" men deal with women.

The movie is entitled Jump Offs, written and directed by a very talented man of color, Derrick Simmons. I watched it pretty late and it gave me Mental and Emotional indigestion.

He opens the flick by saying "In a relationship there are only 2 positions. Either you're somebody's significant other or you're somebody's JUMP OFF". They then cut to some brothers playing on the basketball court.

It's an urban comedy about 6 players with different types of games jumping from woman to woman leaving a string of lies, broken hearts and baby mama drama behind.

Even an ugly brother with horrific buck teeth, had a bunch of women he was running games on. (Ugly men are getting bold y'all).

Now on one hand I could dismiss this film as a tale out of somebody's head but it made me look at all the times I have chosen to be played, volunteered to be a "jump off". I didn't consciously know that's what I was doing, but with some honesty and insight I can see myself in the film.

Of course before wisdom, I would blame the men that passed through my life. Something was wrong with them. Never taking responsibility that I chose them as much as they chose me – whether he was married, or had a girlfriend or just not emotionally available I let the fantasy in my head cause me to settle for less. But really there's no "him" to blame. There are only the choices I made.

My experience is that my feminine intuition will tell me if I'm the "jump off". Most women know they're being played but it's almost coded in our DNA to seek love at all cost; even the cost of our souls. Partly, because sex or making love is like breathing. "Yuh gotta have it". It is the Divine design for the procreation of the species. Simply put, "We ain't got no choice". But we do have the right to choose who we connect with and how we're treated.

A male buddy of mine once said to me "Women don't know their worth". That statement haunts me. It's become a barometer now for my choices. It's become the title of a volunteer workshop I do for young women 17-25 who have had run ins with the law and are trying to find their way back to themselves. And in most cases find themselves.

But the reality is that the worthiness dis- ease can be found in women of all ages, economic backgrounds and races. The disease shows up among men too but in my observation it's more prevalent with women.

When my friend brought up the worthiness issue I spoke to one of my male mentors, Ankh Ra Semahj, at the Studio of Ptah, and he led me to a book "When God Was A Woman" by Merlin Stone. It's a challenging read because of the dense amount of historical information, however, like Baba Semahj it has been stretching my consciousness and giving me a deeper look at myself and how women have been impacted by Religion.

Without going into too much detail – Many ancient cultures revered the Goddess. In some cultures God was seen as a woman. It was the Queen who chose the male that would be her King and very often it was only for a short time – until she was impregnated and then their was a ritual sacrifice of the male King. ( I don't agree with that. I think that's imbalanced. We ain't got to kill the brothers.) However, in ancient times women ruled. When did we lose our power? When did we lose our voices, ourselves?

While we blame men for our pain, the reality is we teach men how to treat us. Remember it was in our wombs they lived and breathed for 9 months. Influenced by our thoughts, our joys our fears and prayers. So too in our relationships they enter our wombs, and are influenced by our attitudes and beliefs about ourselves. A man can smell our desperation, neediness, and fears of being alone and if he is not an enlightened, spiritually grounded male he will play.

In Western society we worship only a male deity. There is no worship of the feminine. No reverence for the womb. Judaism, Islam and Christianity have brought about a shift in the role women play in society and consequently a major shift in how we see ourselves. As a result we are now being played and have become like basketballs thrown from hoop to hoop – to put it simply we've become "JUMP OFFS".

   
"Hazelle is a real find! She's a comedienne who is very funny and can incorporate her humor into first rate acting."

Woody Allen, The New York Times

Hazelle Goodman made screen history of sorts when Allen cast her in the role of the prostitute Cookie, the voice of reason amidst chaos, in "Deconstructing Harry", making her the first African American actress to have a major role in one of the writer-director's films. The Trinidadian actress and comedienne delivered a tantalizing, scene-stealing turn that made audiences and film critics sit up and take notice.

Recognizing the difficulties of being both female and a woman of color, Goodman began developing her own one-person show Things Going On". HBO chief Michael Fuchs was intrigued by an invitation to one of her performances and attended, an event which led to Goodman headlining her own one-woman special "Hazelle!" on that network.

An acclaimed outing as the "Queen" in the Public Theater's production of Cymbeline, marked Hazelle's Shakespearean debut.

She has performed alongside noted celebrities Oprah Winfrey, Jane Fonda, Glenn Close, Rosie Perez and others at the Madison Square Garden premier performance of the Vag!na Monologues and the diva, drug lord, "Georgia Rae Mahoney" on NBC's Homicide, and as Evelda Drumgo in the block buster film Hannibal.

Ms. Goodman recently brought her extraordinary talents to the wonderful work of the late Spalding Gray entitled "Leftover Stories To Tell" receiving rave reviews. The show will be filmed by Whoopi Goldberg in Winter 2008.

Hazelle is also an advocate for health consciousness, a leadership speaker, and a business woman on a mission.