tommy69U's Blog

It's true that our friends bring out the best in us and some friends make our hearts ache with pure joy,and at times with sadness.Friendship's multiply the joys and divide our griefs thru our busy days.Pet's are such agreeable friends they ask no questions they pass no criticisms,they live and breath our life stlyes.Good,bad or indifferent,day or night they are always by our side,can't buy that.Real friends are our greatest joy and sometimes our greatest sorrow,but there is no desert like being friendless.

We all have many different types of friends,I concider some as transitional-friends they maybe your paper-plate friends,who we say hello to and welcome thier interactions on a semi annual bases.Then we have our fine-china friends,whose life's intertwine with ours maturing mutual respect and admiration that blossoms daily.Through out our life we embrace our crystal friends,who have proven with substance that our best interest and well being is essential and would be accountable for unconditional loyalty and trust.Our true and faithful friend's are one of Gods givers.So often we come across the takers,and pray that someday their hearts and minds would expand their view's,option's and choice's thus developing and acquiring respectable actions with Faith and value for all life.

Chance makes our Parents,but choice makes our

Friends & Lovers.

The eagle has the longest life span of it's species,it can live up to 70 years. But to reach this age the eagle must make a hard decision in it's 40th year. It's long flexible talons can no longer grab pray which serves as food. It's long and hard beck becomes bent old age and heavy wings due to their thick feathers stick to it's chest and make it difficult to fly.Then the eagle is left only two options, die or go through a painful process of change. The process requires that the eagle fly to a mountain top and sit on it's nest, there the eagle knocks it's beck against a rock until it plucks it out.Then the eagle will wait for a new beck to grow back and then it will pluck out it's talons.When the new talons grow back,the eagle starts plucking it's old-aged feathers and after this,the eagle takes it's famous flight of rebirth and lives for 30 more years. In order to survive and live we too have to start the change process,we sometimes need to get rid of unpleasant old memories,negative habits and our fixed mind set.Only freed from past burdens,can we take advantage of the present.In order to take on a new journey ahead,let go of old limiting beliefs,and open up your mind & heart to exprience your rebirth.

And let yourself fly high agian like an eagle.

To all a death can and will change life's forevermore with mixed emotions.

After our tears subside and more words have been expressed,good bad or indifferent they are all important for understanding and acceptances of our lost love ones.This allows us thoughts to reflect on what made that person special to us,and why they will be so missed.It has proven to many families over the years that when someone passes away and there had been no prearranged wishes for there choices in the way we are to celebrated there life,and them being memorized here on earth.May they be young, middle age or elderly we are all do our last respects and concerns.

I would like to share a story of a family I met and worked with that experienced the lost of women,who was a Mother,Wife,Daughter,fellow Veteran,Friend and supporter to her community.One day at a doctors visit she was informed of having advanced stage of breast cancer,and that surgery and treatments would not prevail more then a few months of life.Upon arriving home she was standing in her kitchen when her youngest daughter arrived home from school.She noticed that her mom was twisting her most cherished possession on her hand,the wedding bands that she had never ever removed in over 35 years of marriage,no matter the reason.

As a few months passed by she had lost her battle,and at the funeral home her husband was asked if her jewelery was to be taken off or left on.He said with great convinced that his wife never ever took them off and that he knew she would of wanted them to be with her.So as a few mouths past by,one day her youngest daughter came by to help dad with moms room.The daughter came down the stairs and asked her father were was moms rings ? he replied well you know your mother never ever took them off so she was buried with them honey.

Upon hearing this she began to tear up and left the house.For a few weeks the father notice that there was something wrong with his daughter,and asked her why she had gotten so upset about her mothers rings.She informed him of how one day she came home and seen mom twisting her rings with tears in her eyes,and then was told about the cancer.She also said to me she wished that I would have her rings to always remember to never give up hope and that she would always be with me.Well after a few days of crying and complete frustration about his daughters feelings,he made a call to the cemetery and ask if his wife body could be disinterred,and have her rings removed.On the day this was accomplished the funeral director removed her rings and at the same time the husband handed him a new set which was placed as well.

The cost and grief from not knowing someone’s finale wishes can have an even more struggling affect on the love ones,long after the passing.My hope to all is we need to plan,document and keep in a safe place our prearranged cemetery & funeral home needs and wishes for our in-enviable passing.This will surely help support and guide your family on that terrible day,when there is so much to do and so many decisions to be made on your behalf in only a few days. 

In closing most people I meet with don’t want to talk about death,being afraid in denial as well uninformed will cause many negative responses.But keep this in mind its always and will only be your decision to plan ahead for yourself and the love ones left behind.

The next time you look into your mirror and see YOU

Know the only way you can leave your impression is to

plain ahead.

Looking at your photos,I'll try to explain what I feel.

You look so touchable,so vulnerable,so empowered and so real that your pictures stay in my mind,past the time,when I'm actually looking at you.

It's you.But it isn't.

At least not the you that I would normally see.You look as though you're posing specifically for me... 

And I'm seeing a side of you,that I never knew was there,
and it's more than the make up,the outfit and the style of your hair.
 

It's the Sparkle in your eyes,and the reflection of your lips;the tip of your head,and the tilt in your hips...it's like your body is talking without any words being said. 
 

It's the muscles in your legs and the shadows they produce,that I'd never seemed to see before and now,cannot refuse. 

I see,and I'm entranced and wanting more,of this sensual part I've never seen before.
 

Both are teasing and taunting me! And all the while you make me feel as though it were all for me. 

This amazing display of sensual intimacy.

I believe that our good Lord has created the many 

Women Of Color 

To Set The Bar For Beauty.