LifeSkills1's Blog

You will find that people may do what you do but no one can do anything no one can ever do it the way you do things. You are and have been very special at birth and there is no reason in the world to doubt your individual value at any point in your life. Enjoy that feeling, it is real. Failure does not exist, there is no such thing. Only your degree of success ever needs to be measured by you. Even your most pitiful degree of success is a seed for the future. It will grow with any kind of attention at all that you give it. Fear is always a fantasy, then again so is success. You alone are going to choose which one of these the world will see as being real. Remember "I would if I could". "I would" is a dream and a very good dream. "If I could" is the search for a plan or a way to make it happen for yourself. I can" is the harmony of all the feelings and thoughts that make your life happen, on purposes successfully. I Can, I Have, I Do, I Create, I AM, I Will, I Choose, I Enjoy I Love

Patricia Cameron, B.A. Joseph J. Ferrandino, Ph.D. Michael Katz, M.A. Our emphasis in the E.I.P. Asser-tion Training Program is to encourage behavioral awareness and choice options.


PASSIVE BEHAVIOR:
Not getting one's needs met or getting them met indirectly through manipulation. When a person acts in a passive manner, that person either ignores or simply does not express his rights, needs and/or desires. The consequence of such behavior is the infringement of one's rights, resulting from the fear of standing up for them. However, the passive individual sometimes does get his needs met through manipulation. This is an indirect and dis-honest tactic, which seeks to obtain something from the other person engaged in-the interaction. In this instance, the passive person has allowed another to choose for him. Passive behavior aims to avoid unpleasant or risky situations; this is accomplished through hedging and/or apologetic and indecisive language. The ultimate consequence of this behavior is feelings of anxiety and frustration, which can culminate in a later aggressive outburst.

AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR:
Getting one's needs met without taking into consideration the rights and needs of others. Although an individual behaving in an aggressive manner may indeed be standing up for legitimate rights, he does this in a fashion that violates the rights of others. Aggressive behavior is an inappropriate outburst or hostile overreaction to some stimulus situation. While aggressive behavior may be effective in one's efforts to achieve his goal, in the long run the outcome may be feelings of resentment and alienation by others. This behavior may be self-enhancing; however, the aggressive person may also experience feelings of guilt, since such behavior is generally emotionally impulsive. In short, friendship and respect may be sacrificed to satisfy immediate needs.

ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOR:
Expressing one's rights and needs while taking into consideration the rights and needs of others

What Is Racial Profiling?
The most common example of police racial profiling is "DWB", otherwise known as "driving while black". This refers to the practice of police targeting African Americans for traffic stops because they believe that African Americans are more likely to be engaged in criminal activity.

While racial profiling is illegal, a 1996 Supreme Court decision allows police to stop motorists and search their vehicles if they believe trafficking illegal drugs or weapons. More traffic stops leads to more arrests, which further skews the racial profiling statistics against African Americans. Studies have shown that African Americans are far more likely to be stopped and searched. Are African Americans really committing more crimes or are they just caught more often because the police target them? This is a vicious cycle that even the strictest law enforcement advocates would admit is patently unfair.

What can you do if you are stopped? Civil rights attorneys advise the following:

1. Know your rights: you are not required to give permission to police officer to search your car. You can deny the request - but do so politely.

2. Don't argue: the police may try to intimidate you. Do not be confrontational and provoke an argument.

3. Get the names of the officers: be sure to get their badge numbers, squad car number, license plate number, and make a note of the location and time of day.

File a complaint if you feel you have been mis-treated: Your police office for, "Office Of Professional Accountability" have your story straight they are trying to help you. Or contact the ACLU or other civil rights organizations for legal advice.

THE ESSENCE OF COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL THERAPY
1. Habit change is quick and easy when commitment is present.
2. Current performance is determined by immediate choices of actions.
3. Time and energy are always available when you are truly committed.
4. You can do anything you want regardless of how you're feeling.
5. Life, is a series of opportunities for break-through. Every time you act, you add strength to the motivating idea behind what you've done. The sheer fact of acting on any belief or feeling makes you believe or feel it more.

When was the last time you huge someone. Yelling and raising hell is no replacement for personal care, and support. When a loved one walks out that door you don't know if they're coming back we just assume they will.

BUILD THEIR CONFIDENCE: Teens who feel good about themselves are more likely to handle peer pressure successfully and say No to smoking, and drugs.

HELP THEM SHINE: To build healthy self-esteem. Help your child discover and develop her strengths Whether she's good at sports, music, training the family dog or organizing neighborhood games, tell him or her so and give them more opportunities to us her talents. If he is skilled with computers ask them to help you with projects.

BE POSITIVE: Sometimes parents spend too much time and energy telling a child what they do wrong,Make a point of telling them what they do well.

SHOW YOUR PRIDE: Display artwork, photos, certificates and other mementos. Share his or her success stories with relatives and friends.

TEACH THEM TO LEARN FROM MISTAKES: Help your child as opportunities to improve, not as failures. Talk about the things you learned from your own mistakes.