TIME - thetas's Blog

Time is the most valuable commodity that humans have. Unlike money, we can get back time. The only person that can restore the years lost is God when we do things his way. You mention about relationships. That has been one I have been attempting to understand since I was your age. The one that you mention was marriage. Marriage is good thing because it was established by God but has become a big joke with the high divorce rate, which is the highest among Christians. The writer of Hebrews said that the "marriage is honorable in the site of God and the bed is undefile." I still believe. Paul the apostle wrote to the Corinthians in the seventh chapter of his first epistle that it better to be single than married. This is coming a man who was married. In your singleness, you have more time for God because He is the focus. The example of singleness is Jesus Christ who was never married but fulfill his purpose. Also with singleness, you have more for you. Once you understand the complexity of you, you will be able to understand your "mate" (particular the opposite). The apostle Paul also stated to Corinthians that God gave one woman to one man for a whole marriage. If one's desires to be married in order to fulfill one's purpose, that person must be complete. When you are not complete, problems will arise when you connect with another.
I used to be a strong believer in interdependence in my 20's but that has change much when dealing with codependent people. Independence has been my focus and I come to like women who are that. When you are independent, you can grow without external human help but internal strength that God has given you. The problem with present marriages is the lack of growth in their singleness because the parties have not enjoyed being single and independent. Paul the apostle said to the Corinthians the following: if a man can't control himself, he must marry. I understand his thought behind that but he knows that marriage is not bondage but bonding. In his day, sex was highly prent. Our day is not much different. When it comes to taken that next step, I consult 1st Corinthians 7. I know many friends who had problems in their first marriage and now in their second. Marriage has become a status but that status can lead to generation curse: divorce. Even though marriage is great and some are still arranged today, time with your future spouse is always necessary. It was called courting and now we call it dating. Both individuals must become one in spirit before one in flesh. I have been attracted to a couple of females' spirits but let go of one who was not fully in touch with Jesus. My current one I am giving a chance. It is better because I know her church home. Every weekend or bimonthly, I make it appoint to see her. I live in Tucson and she lives in Phoenix. Though it is a distance, I love going up doing my errands for my business and ultimately seeing her. I love her essence, demeanor and body. What a combination. It took me years to get to that level with God and I enjoy it. It is amazing how life can challenging but when you get that right person, it is worth it.
When you spend time, you are learning. School and life are similar. Mistakes are made in both. With school, a teacher is grading you. With life, God is grading you. In between the two are your parents. All three are guides but God is eternal and never leaves you. It is great to learn from other human beings so you won't repeat the mistakes they did. With God, He will allow to make mistakes to learn but He will let you know that you walking into a trap. "There is no temptation is common to man but God makes a way of escape." Every human being must go through trials but some will learn from them. Time can be an enemy but also a powerfull ally. One needs to decide that position and status.