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moe1031

Male, 43, Detroit, MI

Posted Nov 01

YOU KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO? THINK BEFORE YOU MOVE CAUSE SHE IS SHOWING YOU SOMETHING THAT SHE DOSE NOT WANT YOU TO HAVE IN YOUR LIFE.SHE IS HURTTING.AND HAVE BEEN FOR A LONG TIME.YOU ARE USE TO THINGS WHIT YOUR DAD.AND SHE IS TO.BUT LOOK AT THIS ON A TWOWAY HURT.JUST LOOK AT HER.NOW SAY WHAT IF THAT WAS ME?WOULD YOU MOVE ON WHIT YOUR LIFE OR STAY AND WAIT FOR SOME ONE THAT IS NOT INTERESTED IN ANYMORE.THIS HAPPEN EVERYDAY SOME PEOPLE LOSE BOTH.SO LOOK UP AND THANK GOD YOU STILL HAVE BOTH.I HAD BOTH AND LEFT HOME AT 12 SO I HAD TO DO EVERYTHING MYSELF.I DON.T WANT YOU TO TAKE THIS WAY OF LIFE.THERE IS SO MUCH FOR YOU IN LIFE.CAUSE YOU DON.T SEE IT AT THIS TIME.THAT IS LIFE.I CRY WHIT YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED.I MEAN THAT CAUSE I AM A CHILD OF GOD.AND HAD TO WALK ALONG WAY TO BE WHERE I AM NOW.
IF YOU DON.T MIND I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO ASK YOUR MOM IF SHE WOULD LIKE TO SIT DOWN AND TALK.AND ASK HER WHAT IS IT THAT YOU OR SHE DOSE NOT UNDERSTAND.ABOUT EACH OTHER.AND WHY YOU THINK SHE MAY FEEL THAT WAY.IT WON.T HURT CAUSE IF SHE HAVE BEEN CALLING YOU NAMES AND SAY YOU ARE THE PROBLEM SHE CAN TALK ABOUT IT.

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treadmil...

Male, 25, Moore, SC

Posted Nov 02

That was really deep and sad... I really dnt have any advise as i myself haven't been in that situation... but there is one thing i can do for you.... i'll pray that god shows you what the right thing is to do...

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1classya...

Female, 43, Scarborough, ON

Posted Nov 05

Hello, and I hope all is well with you.

Let me first say congrats to you for being grown up and moving forward.

Kids are not asked to be born and as such they do not owe their parents anything, except respect and love"if it's given. in return"Respect is earned if she wants your love and respect she need to earn it.

Trust me when I tell you this if you have family members, relatives, friends co-worker anyone who is negative in your life and does not build you up then, YOU DON'T NEED THEM IN YOUR LIFE" don't be a co-dependent in being around negativity or any bad Ora that is dark.

STEP FROM THE DARKNESS AND IN THE LIGHT, I AM PROUD OF YOU. Remember we can never change others but we can always try to improve and better 'ourselves.

God bless
Angie...

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bryannetta

Female, 23, Austell, GA

Posted Nov 05

you eed to respect your mom wt if she was gone the next day then what be greatful you have a mom cause a few out here dont...............!!!!!!!!!!! !

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NewSpicy...

Female, 24, Arlington Heights, IL

Posted Nov 10

It's easy for people to say oh that's your mom or what if this n that but when you're in that position it's not easy to deal with it.

I went through something somewhat similar years ago with my mother after my dad left. My mother started verbally attacking me and my younger brother. She even came after me and fought me out of nowhere because she was in pain and taking it out on anyone she thought may be taking my dad's side. It takes my all to break through the pain I still feel to this day in order to maintain a healthy relationship with her. It takes a lot of patience and strength to not continue the circle of pain.

Be the bigger person as much as you can and if she never sees what you have done to help things then you can at least be proud of the fact that you tried. You can't control her actions and reactions but you can try talking to her anyway. Try not to say things like "it's your fault that I'm"...it'll only trigger more of an argument. I know she may have hurt you and there's that cause and effect thing but as an adult you're going to have to realize that because you recognize why you are the way you are, the effect should be that you do your best to change things for the better.

I'm glad that you have plans to do better than she in the future but maybe you should remain open to reconciliation because it is very true that she could leave this world tomorrow...but it wouldn't hurt for ppl to understand that you are hurt and your mom should realize tomorrow's not promised for you either.
Good luck,
Chandra

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It's Sad Posted This is just going to be pretty much a rant. The relationship between my Mother and I is so damaged I don't think it will ever be repaired. When my Father used to verbally abuse my Mother, she was so much nicer to me. I was her little angel. Than, after my younger sister was born and the love sort of drifted towards her, my Father also at this time left for good. When this happened, it was almost as if I was a constant reminder to her of when he was around. She started being really cold towards me and it made me have low self-esteem growing up. After she started treating me the way she did, I felt almost as if I wasn't nice enough or good enough to be loved. I felt like I didn't have a Mom and now that I'm older I realize I don't really. Yeah, right now unwillingly she provides me with a roof over my head, but thats pretty much the only reason why we even still talk to each other. Alot of peole defend her and say "Thats your Mom" as if I owe her something because she gave birth to me. She talks down to me alot and I've kind of grown used to it so now it doesn't bother me as much. Yes she still talks to me as if I'm still the 10 year old she called names and cursed at, but I'm just alot older and told myself not to care. It hurts sometimes, when she catches me at the right time. Slowly though I'm learning more and more not to listen to anything she says. Not to care, because one day I'm going to be successful, more successful than she could imagine and she is going to wish that she didn't look down upon me with hate. Before she could make that wish, I'll be gone away from her. And so much more happier. 5 Comments \| << older Comments (5) Add Comment Comments Options Sort comments by: Newest Oldest Report Abuse moe1031 Male, 43, Detroit, MI Posted Nov 01 YOU KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO? THINK BEFORE YOU MOVE CAUSE SHE IS SHOWING YOU SOMETHING THAT SHE DOSE NOT WANT YOU TO HAVE IN YOUR LIFE.SHE IS HURTTING.AND HAVE BEEN FOR A LONG TIME.YOU ARE USE TO THINGS WHIT YOUR DAD.AND SHE IS TO.BUT LOOK AT THIS ON A TWOWAY HURT.JUST LOOK AT HER.NOW SAY WHAT IF THAT WAS ME?WOULD YOU MOVE ON WHIT YOUR LIFE OR STAY AND WAIT FOR SOME ONE THAT IS NOT INTERESTED IN ANYMORE.THIS HAPPEN EVERYDAY SOME PEOPLE LOSE BOTH.SO LOOK UP AND THANK GOD YOU STILL HAVE BOTH.I HAD BOTH AND LEFT HOME AT 12 SO I HAD TO DO EVERYTHING MYSELF.I DON.T WANT YOU TO TAKE THIS WAY OF LIFE.THERE IS SO MUCH FOR YOU IN LIFE.CAUSE YOU DON.T SEE IT AT THIS TIME.THAT IS LIFE.I CRY WHIT YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED.I MEAN THAT CAUSE I AM A CHILD OF GOD.AND HAD TO WALK ALONG WAY TO BE WHERE I AM NOW. IF YOU DON.T MIND I WOULD LIKE FOR YOU TO ASK YOUR MOM IF SHE WOULD LIKE TO SIT DOWN AND TALK.AND ASK HER WHAT IS IT THAT YOU OR SHE DOSE NOT UNDERSTAND.ABOUT EACH OTHER.AND WHY YOU THINK SHE MAY FEEL THAT WAY.IT WON.T HURT CAUSE IF SHE HAVE BEEN CALLING YOU NAMES AND SAY YOU ARE THE PROBLEM SHE CAN TALK ABOUT IT. Report Abuse treadmil... Male, 25, Moore, SC Posted Nov 02 That was really deep and sad... I really dnt have any advise as i myself haven't been in that situation... but there is one thing i can do for you.... i'll pray that god shows you what the right thing is to do... Report Abuse 1classya... Female, 43, Scarborough, ON Posted Nov 05 Hello, and I hope all is well with you. Let me first say congrats to you for being grown up and moving forward. Kids are not asked to be born and as such they do not owe their parents anything, except respect and love"if it's given. in return"Respect is earned if she wants your love and respect she need to earn it. Trust me when I tell you this if you have family members, relatives, friends co-worker anyone who is negative in your life and does not build you up then, YOU DON'T NEED THEM IN YOUR LIFE" don't be a co-dependent in being around negativity or any bad Ora that is dark. STEP FROM THE DARKNESS AND IN THE LIGHT, I AM PROUD OF YOU. Remember we can never change others but we can always try to improve and better 'ourselves. God bless Angie... Report Abuse bryannetta Female, 23, Austell, GA Posted Nov 05 you eed to respect your mom wt if she was gone the next day then what be greatful you have a mom cause a few out here dont...............!!!!!!!!!!! ! Report Abuse NewSpicy... Female, 24, Arlington Heights, IL Posted Nov 10 It's easy for people to say oh that's your mom or what if this n that but when you're in that position it's not easy to deal with it. I went through something somewhat similar years ago with my mother after my dad left. My mother started verbally attacking me and my younger brother. She even came after me and fought me out of nowhere because she was in pain and taking it out on anyone she thought may be taking my dad's side. It takes my all to break through the pain I still feel to this day in order to maintain a healthy relationship with her. It takes a lot of patience and strength to not continue the circle of pain. Be the bigger person as much as you can and if she never sees what you have done to help things then you can at least be proud of the fact that you tried. You can't control her actions and reactions but you can try talking to her anyway. Try not to say things like "it's your fault that I'm"...it'll only trigger more of an argument. I know she may have hurt you and there's that cause and effect thing but as an adult you're going to have to realize that because you recognize why you are the way you are, the effect should be that you do your best to change things for the better. I'm glad that you have plans to do better than she in the future but maybe you should remain open to reconciliation because it is very true that she could leave this world tomorrow...but it wouldn't hurt for ppl to understand that you are hurt and your mom should realize tomorrow's not promised for you either. Good luck, Chandra Add Comment	recent posts It's Sad Daddy's Girl Hypocrites 101: The Public Doesn't Know What... blog archive October 2009 (3 Posts) get in touch You must login or register in order to get in touch.

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