To all a death can and will change life's forevermore with mixed emotions.
After our tears subside and more words have been expressed,good bad or indifferent they are all important for understanding and acceptances of our lost love ones.This allows us thoughts to reflect on what made that person special to us,and why they will be so missed.It has proven to many families over the years that when someone passes away and there had been no prearranged wishes for there choices in the way we are to celebrated there life,and them being memorized here on earth.May they be young, middle age or elderly we are all do our last respects and concerns.
I would like to share a story of a family I met and worked with that experienced the lost of women,who was a Mother,Wife,Daughter,fellow Veteran,Friend and supporter to her community.One day at a doctors visit she was informed of having advanced stage of breast cancer,and that surgery and treatments would not prevail more then a few months of life.Upon arriving home she was standing in her kitchen when her youngest daughter arrived home from school.She noticed that her mom was twisting her most cherished possession on her hand,the wedding bands that she had never ever removed in over 35 years of marriage,no matter the reason.
As a few months passed by she had lost her battle,and at the funeral home her husband was asked if her jewelery was to be taken off or left on.He said with great convinced that his wife never ever took them off and that he knew she would of wanted them to be with her.So as a few mouths past by,one day her youngest daughter came by to help dad with moms room.The daughter came down the stairs and asked her father were was moms rings ? he replied well you know your mother never ever took them off so she was buried with them honey.
Upon hearing this she began to tear up and left the house.For a few weeks the father notice that there was something wrong with his daughter,and asked her why she had gotten so upset about her mothers rings.She informed him of how one day she came home and seen mom twisting her rings with tears in her eyes,and then was told about the cancer.She also said to me she wished that I would have her rings to always remember to never give up hope and that she would always be with me.Well after a few days of crying and complete frustration about his daughters feelings,he made a call to the cemetery and ask if his wife body could be disinterred,and have her rings removed.On the day this was accomplished the funeral director removed her rings and at the same time the husband handed him a new set which was placed as well.
The cost and grief from not knowing someone’s finale wishes can have an even more struggling affect on the love ones,long after the passing.My hope to all is we need to plan,document and keep in a safe place our prearranged cemetery & funeral home needs and wishes for our in-enviable passing.This will surely help support and guide your family on that terrible day,when there is so much to do and so many decisions to be made on your behalf in only a few days.
In closing most people I meet with don’t want to talk about death,being afraid in denial as well uninformed will cause many negative responses.But keep this in mind its always and will only be your decision to plan ahead for yourself and the love ones left behind.
The next time you look into your mirror and see YOU
Know the only way you can leave your impression is to
plain ahead.
