So many women want to be married, yet for all the wrong reasons. They say thing...s like, "I want somebody to make me happy," or "I need help with these bills," or, "I'm just tired of being alone!"
Its as if folks want to get as much as they can out of a relationship, instead of looking to give as much as they can into the relationship.
The world got it backwards, and unfortunately, with 50% of marriages ending in divorce and the same percentage applying whether saved or unsaved, some of the world's ways have obviously seeped into the church.
Here is 1 of 3 right reasons to marry someone.
1).You're ready to serve.
Marriage is not about taking; it's about giving.
You serve your spouse. You pour into him causing him to become the man that God already pre-destined him to be. You help him with his vision. You assist him with his goals. You serve.
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Genesis 2:18
"Help meet," in this Scripture, means one who helps. So since you'll be called to help your husband, it behooves you to know your calling, your gifts and talents so you can know how you'll be able to assist. It also behooves him to know his purpose in advance so he can know what he needs help with.
2). You're ready to please.
Marriage is NOT all about you. It's about pleasing your spouse because in
pleasing your spouse God is pleased. Now I'm not speaking of doing things which goes against God's will.
Once you get married, there is a priority shift. As a single your no. 1 aim and purpose is to please God with your life.
Once you're married, your goal is to make sure your spouse remains pleased and in doing so pleases God.
You want to make sure you date and marry a godly man, one who loves God not just with his lips but with His lifestyle. A man of honor. A man of the Word (and not just any man).
However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. Epheisians 5:33 Amp.
3). You desire to add value to someone else's life.
Your desire should be to make your husband's life better, simply because you became a part of it.
Right now, as a single believer, you're already complete (Colossians 2:10). You're already whole; and it's God's desire to connect one 100% whole person, with another 100% whole person, so you can come together as husband and wife and do a mighty work for God.
The Word reminds us how one can put 1,000 to flight, and two can put 10,000 to flight; know that you still got it going on right now, as a single believer, because on your own you put 1,000 to flight and that's nothing to sneeze at.
Once you get married, because you realize what you can add to that man's life, or what you bring to the table, you have the liberty to be so sure of yourself and secure in your own right that you have no problem adding to and pouring into your husband.See More
By: SonyaFire Phillips.